Asking a girl out on a date can be daunting. But with a positive attitude and a little preparation, you’ll soon be wooing the girl—or girls—of your dreams.

You Will Need

A little courage

Some self-assurance

Your best set of clothes

Steps

Step 1: Decide where

Decide beforehand where you want to take her, if you’re lucky enough to get the date. To a fancy restaurant? A movie? Something more original? If possible, choose something that appeals to her interests.

Step 2: Look your best

Look your best. You don’t have to be Brad Pitt to get a date, but it will help if you’re well groomed.

Wear clothes you feel comfortable in. Now is not the time to experiment with a whole new look that may make you feel self-conscious or awkward.

Step 3: Pick your moment

Pick your moment. Asking a girl for a date when she’s rushed or with other people may torpedo your chances. Wait until it’s just you two and you’re not likely to be interrupted.

Step 4: Be yourself

Be yourself. A sincere geek comes across far better than a guy doing a poor imitation of James Bond.

If you wear cologne, go easy on it: You want to date her, not knock her out.

Step 5: Compliment her

When it’s time to make your move, begin by paying her a compliment. She’ll feel good about herself and look kindly on you. But be sincere—no one likes to be patronized.

A funny comment can lighten the mood—just make sure it’s not at her expense! Everyone likes someone who can make them laugh.

Step 6: Ask her out

Take the plunge and ask her out. Nervous? Remind yourself that she can only say “yes” or “no.”

Step 7: If she says no

If she says no, don’t take it personally. You’re not attracted to everyone either, right? Plus, her rejection may have nothing to do with you.

Step 8: If she says yes

If she says yes, set a date and time immediately. Now go home and get ready for your date. And whatever you do, don’t be late!

The average single person will go on at least 100 dates in his or her lifetime.