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Introversion is an often misunderstood term, because people relate it so much to shyness.
内向这个术语常被误解，因为人们总将内向和害羞联系在一起。
It actually doesn't go by a "one size fits all" definition, as it can be categorized into four different types.
事实上，两者不能混为一谈，因为内向可分为四种类型。
The four types of introverts can be vaguely described by the traits:
根据不同特质，内向型性格可粗略地分为四种：
social, thinking and anxious and anxious restrained.
社交型、思考型、焦虑型以及焦虑克制型。
Social Introverts
社交型内向者
The belief that social introverts dislike socialization is false.
社交型内向者不喜欢社交的说法是假的。
Rather, they prefer to socialize in small groups of people they feel compatible with and comfortable around,
相反，他们喜欢在小群体中社交，他们乐于和自己觉得舒适且和谐的人待在一起，
such as close friends or their family circle. Thus, they're not exactly shy or reserved.
比如亲近的朋友或家人。因此，他们并不是完全害羞或高冷。
Thinking Introverts
思考型内向者
These are people who remain introverts in their thinking process,
还有些人的思维过程很内向，
causing them to be more thoughtful and self-reflective.
这让他们更加深思熟虑且常反思。
For instance, they can get lost in their own dream world. Drowned in creativity and imagination.
例如，他们会迷失在他们自己的梦境中。沉浸在创造和想象之中。
Anxious Introverts
焦虑型内向者
Anxious introverts prefer to be alone because they feel uncomfortable or unsuitable during social gatherings
焦虑型内向者喜欢独处，因为在社交聚会中他们会感到不安或不适
as they're not confident about their social skills.
因为他们对自己的社交能力不自信。
Consequently, they are likely to choose solitude but sometimes even solitude may not reduce their anxiety.
因此，他们有可能选择孤独，但有时独处无法减轻他们的焦虑。
These introverts tend to minimize anxiety by ruminating on things
这类内向者喜欢通过反思自己在社交场合中犯的错误
that could've gone wrong had they been in a particular social context.
来减少自己的焦虑。
Restrained Introverts
克制型内向者
These are people who take time in everything they do whether it's socializing or springing up in action.
他们会慢慢的做自己的所有事情，不论是社交还是行动。
They may seem slow since they think more carefully before they speak or act
他们或许看起来很慢，因为他们在说话或行动前会更加仔细地思考一番
and are more passive in nature than the active types
他们比活跃派更被动一点。
Now, you've probably come across an introvert in your life and labeled him or her as so
你或许在生活中遇到过内向的人
by identifying a trait that fits in one of the above types.
通过特质对号入座。
So, how do you know whether an introvert likes you or not?
那么怎样才能知道内向的人是不是喜欢你的呢？
One. Making the first move.
1. 踏出第一步。
Generally, introverts don't make the first move in a social context,
内向的人在社交场合中一般不会走出第一步，
but if you find that an introvert is actively making an effort to talk to you
但如果你发现内向者积极努力地和你搭话
or making a gesture to grab your attention, you can bet he or she likes you.
或是做手势吸引你的注意，你就可以确定他或她喜欢你啦。
Two. Opening up.
2. 开放。
Introverts are not easy to crack.
内向者不易打开心扉。
It takes time for them to come out of their shell and open up about themselves.
他们需要花时间从自己的壳子里爬出来，展现自我。
However, if an introvert is telling you a lot about themselves,
然而，如果一个内向的人和你说起自己的事，
you are definitely someone they want to connect with.
你一定是他们想要相联系的人。
Three. Observing
3. 观察
As introverts are good observers, they're not quick in making friends or including people in their social circle.
因为内向的人是很好的观察者，他们交朋友较慢热，包括他们社交圈的朋友。
They take their time getting to know people and later choose them as friends.
他们会慢慢了解别人，最后才选择他们做朋友。
If you find that an introvert is building a good relationship with you,
如果你发现内向的人正在建立与你之间的良好关系，
it means he or she wants to be close to you.
这就意味着他或她想要和你更加亲近。
Four. Inviting you into their personal space.
4. 邀请你去他们的私人空间。
Introverts like spending time in solitude to reflect on themselves, their thoughts and emotions.
内向的人喜欢和自己独处，反思自己、自己的想法和情绪。
If you are invited into their personal space and asked to spend time with them,
如果他们邀请你去他们的私人空间并和他们相处，
they no doubt enjoy your company.
毫无疑问，他们喜欢你的陪伴。
Five. Talking about personal topics.
5. 谈论个人话题。
You wouldn't normally find an introvert engaging in a personal conversation.
你会发现内向的人不会参与到私人谈话之中。
Instead most of their conversations are generic
他们大多数谈话都是泛泛而谈
but if you come across an introvert that tells you about their likes and dislikes,
但如果你遇到内向者跟你说起自己的喜好、
interests, hobbies, ideologies and goals,
兴趣、爱好、观念和目标
that means they like you to the extent where they feel comfortable doing things
这意味着他们在某种程度上喜欢你，所以他们在做与自己的个性不符合的时候
that are considered out of character.
也会感觉舒适。
Six. Showing extra care
6. 表现出额外的关心
Introverts place high values on relationships.
内向的人重视人际关系。
They show a lot of care, concern, and empathy towards people whom they consider friends or significant others
他们会通过交谈和行为，对自己的朋友或重要的人
through their communications and behaviors.
表现出关心和同情。
If an introvert is paying extra attention to you,
如果内向的人对你表现出额外的关心，
then, they consider you as part of their close circle of friends.
那么，你就是他们亲密的朋友了。
Seven. Going the extra mile
7. 跨出额外几步
Introverts are very warm and helping people.
内向的人很热心且乐于助人。
If you find an introvert trying to do things for you without you asking for help,
如果你发现内向的人试图为你做些什么，哪怕你没有要求帮忙，
you are someone he or she really likes.
那么你就他或她真正喜欢的人。
Eight. Constantly keeping in touch.
8. 经常联系。
Even introverts distinguish between close and personal friends.
内向的人也会区分亲密和私密的朋友。
If they keep you a part of their daily lives, then you are someone special to them
如果他们将你作为日常生活中的一部分，那么对于他们而言，你很特别。
Nine. Revealing secrets
9. 揭露秘密
Everyone has a secret they keep to themselves.
每个人都有秘密。
Introverts especially are very careful about whom they reveal their secrets to.
内向的人或非常仔细地挑选秘密的倾诉对象。
It can be something like allowing you to read their diary
比如他们会允许你看自己的日记
or sharing animportant aspect of their past.
或分享过去的重要事情。
If an introvert is allowing you to know a secret part of their life,
如果内向的人让你知道了自己的秘密，
you are someone whom they really trust and like
你就是他们信赖和喜欢的人。
Ten. Giving Feedback
10. 反馈
Introverts don't usually give others advise or feedback,
内向的人通常不会给别人意见或反馈，
as they keep most of their opinions to themselves.
因为他们常保留自己的意见。
But if you find that an introvert is giving you honest advise or feedback,
但如果你发现内向的人诚实的给你建议或反馈，
they're definitely concerned about you and you're wellbeing.
那他们绝对关心你和你的境况。
And those are ten signs an introvert likes you.
以上是内向的人喜欢你的10种表现。
Do these traits sound like someone you know? Do you consider yourself an introvert?
这些特征有没有让你想到某个你认识的人？你觉得自己是内向的人么？
And if so, can you relate to these traits? Let us know in the comments below
如果这样，你能将这些特性相联系起来么？请在下方评论告诉我们吧
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