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'Men are pigs', you say, stuffing your face with ice cream to fill the empty hole of rejection and betrayal.
‘男人是猪’，你一边说，一边吃着冰淇淋以填满抛弃和背叛的空洞。
Any relationship is difficult to maintain but a romantic relationship between a man and a woman is even more so. Why is this?
任何一种关系的维系都很困难，两性之间浪漫关系的维系则更甚。为什么会这样呢？
While love is a feeling experienced identically, the act of falling in love involves two entirely different processes for each sex.
虽然爱是一种感觉，但坠入爱河的行为却包含着完全不同的两性过程。
In the case of men, there are seven particular steps men follow for falling in love.
对男性来说，男人坠入爱河有七个独特的步骤。
The first step, appreciation is by far the most common.
第一步，欣赏，这是最普遍的。
It's the act of checking someone out, focusing on the physical appearance of a potential mate.
这一步是观察对方，关注潜在伴侣的外貌。
Physical appearance is not the most important factor, yet a condition of a man's individual preferences must be met.
外貌并不是最重要的因素，但却是男性个体偏好中必须满足的一项条件。
The second stage, infatuation involves a need to seduce the target love interest.
第二阶段，迷恋，这一阶段包含需要引诱目标爱慕对象。
Traditional methods involve asking the interest out on a date while alternative methods may be based on shared interests and hobbies.
传统方法是约对方出去，另一种可选方法或许建立于共同的兴趣和爱好。
If he's rejected in this pursuit, the man will most likely lose interest.
如果约会被拒绝，多半男性会失去兴趣。
The third stage is attraction where the pursued love interest reciprocates-- interest in him.
第三个阶段是吸引，在这一阶段里追求的爱慕对象也会对男性报以兴趣。
Heartbreak isn't as difficult to deal with before this point as vulnerability hasn't built up yet.
在这一阶段，心碎对男性来讲并不难以应对，因为他们的脆弱性还未建立。
This is the stage where he attempts to get to know the love interest on a deeper level,
在这一步中，男性会尝试更加深入的了解他的爱慕对象，
a more intense relationship requires both parties to reveal more about one another.
更加紧密的关系需要双方彼此更多敞开内心。
Impression, the fourth stage is simply an enhanced version of the previous stage.
印象是第四个阶段，这是之前阶段的升华版。
The potential mate becomes an obsession to the man attempting to get their attention in any way shape or form, from buying gifts to showing how fun he can
男性对潜在伴侣痴迷并尝试以各种方式博取对方的关注，比如买礼物或展示自己的风趣。
Be regardless of these obsessive signs, he is still not in love.
虽然出现这些痴迷迹象，但他并未陷人爱河。
Conviction is the fifth stage, yet it is far more flexible than the other steps spanning from stages two to four.
确信认是第五个阶段，这一阶段比其他第二到第四阶段更加灵活。
This is the stage where the man asks himself whether or not he can see himself with the interest in the far future.
在这一阶段中，男性会问自己，两人之间是否在未来有发展兴趣。
Considering how difficult it is for the man to establish if the relationship should become more than it is now.
对男性来说，让关系更进一步非常困难。
This is a background overlying phase, yet it needs to be completed in order to reach stage six.
这是一个背景叠加阶段，但为了达到第六部，这一步就必须完成。
Reaffirmation is the sixth stage where the man has successfully met his goal of seducing the love interest.
再确认是第六阶段，这一阶段男性已经成功实现吸引爱慕对象的目标。
Only when the potential mate is in this state will he seriously consider whether or not he wants to have an extreme long-term relationship.
只有当潜在伴侣也处于这一阶段时，他才会认真考虑是否想与对方建立长期关系。
The man needs space in this stage, in some cases he could disappear to weigh the pros and cons.
在这一阶段，男性需要空间，在一些情况下，他可能会消失几天去衡量其中的利弊。
If both parties agree, the final stage commitment is achieved.
如果双方都同意，那么最后一个阶段，承诺，就实现了。
Both parties will be committed to the relationship at this point and considering this is the seventh stage, yes, the man is finally in love.
双方此时将忠于彼此，然后考虑第七个阶段，没错，男性最终陷入爱河。
It is important to understand, regardless of gender to learn how to love and often this involves falling in love.
无论何种性别，都应了解如何爱，包括如何陷入爱河。
Hopefully, with these tips, you found an easier path to understanding how romance works in the mind of a typical man.
希望有了这些小提示，你能更加容易理解典型男性的浪漫如何奏效。
Males can be fickle but if you're into that keep these steps in mind,
男性也会变化无常，但是如果你记住这些步骤，
you'll be ahead of those who think they know how love works and maybe you'll save yourself a few pints of ice cream as well.
你将比那些自以为了解爱的人强，或许还能给你省下几罐冰淇淋呢。
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