And yet, in a deep and profound way, we are failing.
Because feminism wasn't supposed to make us feel guilty,
or prod us into constant competitions over who is raising children better, organizing more cooperative marriages, or getting less sleep.
It was supposed to make us free,
to give us not only choices but the ability to make these choices without constantly feeling that we'd somehow gotten it wrong."
Stay-at-home mothers can make me feel guilty and, at times, intimidate me.
There are moments when I feel like they are judging me, and I imagine there are moments when they feel like I am judging them.
But when I push past my own feelings of guilt and insecurity, I feel grateful.
These parents — mostly mothers — constitute a large amount of the talent that helps sustain our schools, nonprofits, and communities.
Remember that mom who pointed out that my son should be wearing a green T-shirt on St. Patrick's Day?
She is a tireless volunteer in the classroom and our community.
So many people benefit from her hard work.
Society has long undervalued the contributions of those who work without a salary.
My mother felt this slight keenly.
For seventeen years, she worked more than full-time as a mother and on behalf of Soviet Jewry.