评论
打印
Yeah. Yeah. I see especially the men are not really getting it.
对，对。我可以看到男生都不太懂
But it's OK. Now how does that feel? Not comfortable right?
不过没关系。感觉如何，不是很舒服对吧
Now this is such a simple movement.
但这只是非常简单的一件事
You know, folding hands! And yet we feel very uncomfortable, something is wrong here.
交叠双手！我们仍然能感觉到很不舒服，有点不对劲
And we want to go back to our folding before.
我们想回到原来交叉双手的方式
Much more comfortable. We first make our habits and then our habits make us. OK.
舒服多了。我们塑造习惯，习惯反过来塑造我们
So the key is, here we are talking about a very simple change, folding hands.
所以关键在于，我们这还只是做了很小的改变，交叠双手
How much more difficult is it when we have had habits that we cultivated for many years and are much more significant in our lives?
那要改变那些我们养成了许多年对我们的生活更重要的习惯会有多么难呢
Very difficult to go... to change them. It takes time.
要改变它们非常困难，这需要时间
William James, as I mentioned before, says it takes 21 days to change a habit.
威廉·詹姆斯，我之前提到过，说改变习惯需要21天
Loehr and Schwartz in their book, The Power of Full Engagement, talk about 30 days to change it.
洛尔和施瓦茨在他们的《精力管理》一书中说需要三十天
And of course it depends on what habit.
当然要看要改变的习惯是什么
So give ourselves 30 days to start the gratitude. Give ourselves 30 days to build the new ritual of exercising regularly.
给自己三十天开始学会感恩，给自己三十天来建立经常锻炼的例行公事
And the key is to give yourself no more than one or two rituals each 30 days.
关键在于每三十天内不要建立超过两件例行公事
Why? Because as we mentioned earlier, it takes a lot of self-discipline to create a ritual and we don't have much self-discipline,
为什么，因为正如我们之前说的建立例行公事需要大量自律而我们的自律是有限的
which is why when we have a list of 10 changes that we want to introduce in our lives today, we end up doing none.
这也就是为什么我们今天列出十项想要做出的改变，但最终什么也没变
We end up doing none. Because we are over-extending our self-discipline and we break down.
最终什么也没变。因为我们过度消耗了自律，最终崩溃了
