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6. You initiate conflicts with those you love.
6. 挑起与你所爱之人的冲突。
Are you somehow always getting into arguments with your family or your friends frequently fighting with you?
你是否不知为何总是和家人或朋友争吵？
Conflicts occurring in our lives one way or another is inevitable
生活中的冲突不可避免
but if it's somehow happening between you and your loved ones all the time,
但如果你和你爱的人之间总发生这种事，
there's a good chance that you subconsciously fear intimacy.
你很有可能在潜意识里害怕亲密。
As human beings, we are comfortable with what we find familiar
作为人类，我们喜欢熟悉感
and believe it or not if what we are familiar with is difficulty in turmoil
不管你信不信，如果我们所熟悉的是混乱中的困境，
than being at peace with those we love may actually make us feel a little uneasy.
而不是与我们所爱之人的和平相处，这实际上可能会让我们感到有点不安。
This drives us to ignite more fights in order to get back into our comfortable area of chaos.
为了回到混乱中的舒适区，这会驱使我们点燃更多战火。
Other times, it's because we fear rejection so we begin a squabble before a companion has the chance to hurt us.
其他时候，因为我们害怕被拒绝，我们会在同伴有机会伤害我们前，开始争吵。
Regardless, this is very unhealthy behavior and will only continue to sustain the sabotaging of our lives.
不管怎样，这是一种非常不健康的行为，且只会继续破坏我们的生活。
7. You lose your goals shortly after you achieve them.
7. 你在实现目标后不久又失去了目标。
Have you ever received something you wished for only to lose it shortly afterwards?
你是否曾得到了自己想要的，却在不久便失去了？
Did you finally get a relationship you wanted but broke up within a few months?
你是否和喜欢的人在一起后，不到几个月就分手了？
If this same problem keeps popping up time and time again in many areas of your life,
如果同一问题不断出现在你生活的很多方面，
this may be due to your beliefs and self-talk.
这或许是因为你的信念和自我谈话。
On some core level, you may not believe in yourself and think you are unworthy.
在某些核心水平上，你或许不相信自己并觉得自己的不值得。
8. You focus on problems rather than solutions.
8. 你专注问题而不是解决办法。
As John Lennon once said there are no problems only solutions.
约翰·列侬曾说过，没有问题，只有解决问题的办法。
When something bad happens, it may surprise you to hear that it's not actually a problem that is
当不好的事情发生时，你可能会惊讶地发现，只要你不这么认为，
as long as you don't perceive it that way.
这其实不是一个问题。
The truth is you have full rein to believe whether an incident that occurred is an issue or not.
事实上你有权利决定发生的事故是否是一个问题。
If you find yourself complaining or curling up in a ball every time something you don't want happens,
如果你发现每次你不想要发生的事情发生时，你都在抱怨或者蜷缩成一团，
this is without a doubt a sign you're sabotaging yourself.
毫无疑问这是你在阻碍自己的迹象。
9. You're over indulgent.
9. 过分放纵。
Now this is an easy telltale sign. Do you find yourself snacking out of boredom even when you're not very hungry?
这是一个很容易说明问题的迹象。你是否在不饿的时候还会因为无聊而吃东西呢？
Do you often stare at videos watching one after another even when you don't think they're interesting or entertaining?
你是否经常一个接着一个地看视频，但其实这些视频很无趣？
There's nothing wrong with watching shows or eating tasty food but when we do this merely to distract ourselves,
看节目或是吃美味的食物并没有什么，但我们这么做只是为了分散注意力的时候，
this is yet another sign for procrastinating and therefore continuing to sabotage ourselves.
这则是拖延的另一个迹象，继而会阻碍了自己。
10. You question whether you have a purpose in life.
10. 质疑自己生活的意义。
When we're not working towards what we want in our lives, we might start asking the big question
当我们没有朝着我们想要的生活努力的时候，我们可能会开始问一些大问题：
what's the meaning of my life? Is there a point to anything I'm doing? Am I who I'm meant to be?
生命的意义是什么？我做的事情是否有意义？我会成为怎样的人？
Life is what you make of it and lots of these questions simply don't have logical answers you can find.
生活是由你创造的，很多这样的问题是找不到合乎逻辑的答案的。
Pondering these thoughts will usually just lead you to overthinking, which is such a waste of your time and energy.
思考这些想法通常只会让你想得过多，这是浪费自己的时间和精力。
Do you think you're sabotaging yourself? Have you identified with any of the points shown in this video?
你觉得自己是在阻碍自己吗？你认同这段视频所讲的么？
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