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Hey there! Welcome to Life Noggin.
大家好，欢迎来到大脑洞开的生命奇想！
Aw, you got me flowers? Oh they're for Circlia, got it.
这花是给我的？奥，它们是给莉娅的，懂了。
Yep, that makes more sense. Keeping a secret can sometimes feel like a heavy weight has been placed on your shoulders.
是的，这更能讲得通。保守秘密有时候就像是在你肩膀上放了一个重担。
No, really. Researchers have found that having a secret made people think hills were steeper, distances further,
是真的。研究人员发现保守秘密会让人觉得山坡更陡，距离更远，
and that physical tasks were harder - similar to when a person carries a physical burden.
体力任务更加艰难-这跟人背了一个重物的感觉类似。
Secrets can affect your well-being, health, and relationships and have even been linked to anxiety, depression, and more health problems.
秘密会影响你的幸福感、健康和人际关系，甚至会导致焦虑、抑郁和更多的健康问题。
Having a secret can also make you feel isolated or lonely. Despite all of that, nearly everyone has a secret and often they have more than one.
拥有秘密也会让你感到孤独。尽管如此，几乎每个人都有一个秘密，而且往往不止一个。
In a 2017 study that surveyed 1,000 people, participants were keeping an average of 13 secrets, five of which they had never told anyone else.
2017年的一项研究调查了1000人，参与者平均保守13个秘密，其中5个从未告诉过其他人。
The most common types of secrets kept entirely to themselves involved extra-relational thoughts,
最常见的完全对自己保密的秘密包括关系外的想法，
meaning romantic thoughts about someone who wasn't their current partner, or sexual behaviors like watching adult content or fantasies.
意思是对不是他们现在伴侣的人持有的浪漫想法，或者像观看成人内容或幻想这样的性行为。
But researchers have found that it's not the concealment that causes distress and lowers your well-being, or even how bad the secret is.
但是研究者发现，并不是保守秘密导致压力和降低幸福感，或者是秘密有多糟糕，
What causes a negative effect on your well-being and health is actually due to how often you think about it -
对你的幸福和健康造成负面影响的其实是你思考秘密的频率-
which study participants did around twice as much as they actively concealed their secret.
参与者思考秘密的频率是主动隐藏秘密次数的两倍。
This is made even worse if the secret or act of keeping it makes you feel inauthentic, or like you are hiding the real you.
如果秘密或者保守秘密的行为使你感觉不真实，或者感觉就像是隐藏真实的你，那么情况会更加糟糕。
However, some scientists believe that there are advantages to keeping a secret, particularly during adolescence.
然而，一些科学家认为保守秘密是有好处的，尤其是在青春期。
They argue that it may help the development of the autonomous self - known as the process of individuation -
他们认为，这可能有助于发展自主的自我，即个性化的过程-
due to the need for self-control and personal choice, which are a big part of keeping a secret.
由于自控和个人选择的需要，这是保守秘密的一个重要部分。
But while one study found that keeping secrets from parents contributed to feelings of autonomy in adolescents between the ages of 12 and 18,
但是，尽管一项研究发现，对父母保密有助于提升12至18岁的青少年的自主性，
it also found that these students were more likely to have physical complaints and a depressed mood.
但是研究也发现，这些学生更有可能出现身体的不适和抑郁的情绪。
Another study of 13 to 18 year olds found that secret keeping was associated with psychosocial problems like depressed moods, low self-control, loneliness, and poor relationships.
另一项对13岁到18岁的人群的研究发现，保守秘密和一些心理问题有关，比如抑郁情绪，自制力低下，孤独感和较差的人际关系。
And after divulging the secret, these problems lessened.
在泄露秘密后，这些问题减轻了。
While it's not always possible to be open about your secret,
尽管公开你的秘密并不总是可行的，
confiding in just one other person can be beneficial and even remove that physical burden.
但是仅仅向一个人倾诉都是有益的，甚至可以移除那种身体负担。
A recent study published this year showed that confiding reduces the number of times you think about that secret, resulting in a better well-being.
今年，一项近期发布的研究表明倾诉会减少你思考秘密的次数，这会产生更好的幸福感。
And talking about it with someone often leads to emotional support, guidance, and advice
和他人谈论秘密常常会带来情感支持，引导和建议，
which makes keeping the secret from other less challenging.
这使对他人保守秘密不那么困难。
So, if you have a big secret constantly on your mind,
所以，如果你头脑中一直萦绕着一个大秘密，
find a close friend or a community that you can trust to help remove some of that weight, if you could safely do so.
找一个亲密的朋友或一个你可以信任的社区吧，如果你可以安全地这样做的话，他们可以帮你减掉一些负担。
Are you good at keeping secrets, or do you spill the beans right away?
你擅长保守秘密吗，还是你很快会把秘密说出去？
Let me know in the comment section below, or tell me what I should talk about next!
请在下面的评论区告诉我答案，或者告诉我接下来我应该谈论什么！
Curious to know how social anxiety really affects you? Check out this video!
想知道社会性焦虑是怎么影响你的吗？看看这个视频吧！
if you have persistent feelings that keep you from doing things that you want or need to do,
如果你有持续的阻止你做你想要或者需要做的事情的感觉，
it may be a sign of Social Anxiety Disorder, also known as Social Phobia.
这可能是社交焦虑障碍的标志，它也被称为社交恐惧症。
Thank you so much for watching and liking this video!
非常感谢收看和喜欢这个视频！
As always my name is Blocko! This has been Life Noggin! Don't forget to keep on thinking.
我是宝高，这里是脑洞大开的生命奇想。思考不要停！
