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One thing that I always get asked is how to help nurture young women's voice and their ability to ask and speak up.
我经常被问到的一件事是，如何帮助培养年轻女性的发言权，以及她们提出问题和大胆表态的能力。
And it's something that is so critical for our girls to learn, and it's a skill that will help them in school of course, but any place they head next.
这对我们的女孩来说是非常重要的，也是一项技能，对她们在学校和未来的任何地方都会有帮助。
And I think it's so important to think about easy ways we can build this into everyday life for parents.
我认为，对于父母而言想一些简单的方法并将其融入到日常生活中，是非常重要的。
And so one great idea I have from the girls at my school is how to help them practice speaking up and asking in everyday life.
因此，我从学校的女孩们那里获得了一个很棒的想法，那就是如何帮助她们在日常生活中大胆表态和提问。
What does this look like?
是什么样呢？
It looks like the next time you go to order pizza or Chinese food, or you're out at a restaurant when we finally get to go out or at the amusement park, or in a museum.
就像下次你要点披萨或中餐的时候，或者当我们终于有机会出去吃饭的时候，或者在游乐园或在博物馆的时候。
It's about putting your girl, yes when she's young, when she might be an introvert, when she's gonna be nervous, putting her front and center coaching her, but then having her speak on behalf of the family.
就是让你的女孩，当她年龄还小的时候、可能是个内向的人或者会紧张的时候，把她放在最重要的位置指导她，然后让她代表家人发言。
It's something that parents often overlook. It seems silly, it seems unnecessary, it seems like it'll likely take a few minutes longer to get the answer you want.
这也是父母经常忽略的东西。看起来很愚蠢，似乎也没有必要，还可能会多耗费几分钟的时间来得到你想要的答案。
But girls remember that moment, and then they practice, and they build the muscle memory they need later on to count on when it becomes more important that they can speak out.
但是女孩们会记住那一刻，然后她们会实践，她们建立了之后她们需要依靠的肌肉记忆，当比这些更重要的时刻来临时她们就敢说出来。
When it comes to asking, a great idea for parents is to build the practice of asking into everyday life, what does that mean?
说到提问，给父母的一个好主意就是在日常生活中培养问问题的习惯，这意味着什么呢？
That means the next time your child comes to you and says, I want something, right?
这意味着下次你的孩子来找你说，比如说我想要什么东西，对吧？
The endless asks, no matter what your answer will be, and you might have already decided have her take a few minutes, send her off for 30 minutes, maybe an hour,
不管你的答案是什么，你可能已经决定多给她几分钟，给她半小时，或者一个小时，
buys yourself some time, and have her come back after a set period and pitch you.
为自己争取一些时间，然后让她在一段时间后回来游说你。
Make sure she has three reasons, explain to her that data often works best, send her off to do some research,
确保她有三个理由，向她解释数据通常是最有效的，让她去做一些调研，
and then have her come back and explain three reasons why perhaps presenting the downsides too that she wants whatever new toy, new app, new opportunity for a weeknight sleepover, whatever it might be.
然后让她回来，解释她想要的任何新玩具、新应用、工作日晚上在外过夜的机会等的三个理由。
And again, the answer doesn't matter.
同样，答案并不重要。
Maybe you probably know already what you wanted to do, but it's the practice of asking,
也许你可能已经知道你想做什么了，但这就是一次提问的实践，
the practice of showing her how important it is and then giving her feedback to say, huh, I liked that you showed me a bit of research,
向她展示这样做的重要性，并给予她反馈，告诉她你喜欢她展示的调研，
that you spent time drawing a picture that you explained why it was so important to you.
耗费时间作图已解释那为什么重要。
Those moments stick out particularly for young women, and years later they'll look back and thank you for you making sure they're gonna be the best pitching person on their team, the best person with a pitch, the best entrepreneur that's out there on the market.
这些时刻对年轻女性来说尤其突出，多年后当她们回首往事时会感谢你确保她们成为团队中最优秀的推销员，市场上最优秀的推销员、最优秀的企业家。
So something to remember for every parent.
这是每个家长都应该记住的。
