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Hey Psych2Goers, welcome back to another video.
嘿，大家好，欢迎回来。
Psych2Go's mission is to make psychology and mental health, more accessible to everyone. And you help us do that, so we wanna say thanks.
Psych2Go的使命是让每个人都能更轻松地了解心理学和心理健康。是大家帮助了我们做到了这一点，所以我们先说声谢谢。
Now, let's begin. Do know of someone who struggles to communicate their thoughts and control their emotions.
现在我们开始吧。有没有人在努力沟通自己的想法并控制自己的情绪。
These are examples of low emotional maturity, or more broadly, low psychological maturity.
这些都是低情绪成熟度的表现，或者更广泛地说，低心理成熟度的表现。
According the "APA Dictionary of Psychology," "Psychological maturity is the ability to effectively deal with the things that come up in life and perform well in biological or social tasks characteristic of a person's age."
根据《APA心理学词典》，“心理成熟是有效处理生活中出现的事情的能力，并在一定的年龄段在生理或社会任务方面表现出色。”
Here are five signs of low emotional maturity. Please note that relating to one, two, or even more of these points do not automatically make someone emotionally immature.
以下是情绪不成熟的五个迹象。请注意，其中的一点、两点或者更多并不会让一个人在情感上不成熟。
Number one, they can't keep their emotions in check.
第一，他们无法控制自己的情绪。
According to Heitler, "An emotionally immature person can have inappropriate emotional outbursts. And this can present in a number of ways, especially in children."
根据海特勒的说法，“一个情绪不成熟的人可能会有不适当的情绪爆发。可能会以多种方式表现出来，尤其是在儿童身上。”
For example, a child throws a tantrum, upon confrontation they blame others for their own emotional outbursts.
例如一个小孩发脾气，在对抗时他会把自己的情绪爆发归咎于他人。
Saying things like, "Oh, I acted this way because you made me do it."
会说一些话比如，“哦，我这么做都是被你逼的。”
Do you know someone who is always driven by their emotions? What about someone like Draco Malfoy from Harry Potter?
你认识那种总是被自己的情绪所驱使的人吗？像《哈利·波特》里的德拉科·马尔福这样的人呢？
Two, they're usually defensive and manipulative.
第二，他们通常有防御性和操纵性。
It is not uncommon for emotionally immature people to be defensive.
情绪不成熟的人会有抵触情绪，这很常见。
When they're confronted with a problem they often insult the other person as an intimidation tactic.
当他们面对问题时，他们经常会以侮辱对方作为一种恐吓的策略。
We want to point out that there's a huge difference between explaining yourself in order to add perspective and defending yourself just to be right and free of blame.
我们想要指出的是，为了增强观点而为自己辩解和为了正确和免于指责而为自己辩护之间有很大的区别。
Emotionally immature people are more likely to show defense mechanisms such as projection or denial.
情感不成熟的人更有可能表现出投射(不自觉地把自己的欲念等加诸他人)或否认等防御机制。
As a result, the actions of emotionally immature people may violate other's boundaries.
因此，情绪不成熟的人的行为可能会侵犯他人的界限。
Has there been a time where you felt that someone violated your boundaries?
你有没有觉得有人侵犯了你的界限？
Three, they deflect. Let's explore the term deflection.
第三，他们会转移。我们来探讨一下“转移”这个术语。
People who deflect tend to shy away from important conversations.
会转移的人往往会回避重要的谈话。
They tend to display a sort of discomfort when talking about anything that requires a large amount of analysis, introspection or a reflection.
当谈论任何需要大量分析、反省或反思的事情时，他们往往会表现出一种不舒服的感觉。
For example, they tend to bury anything beneath them that could produce negative emotional consequences choosing to distract themselves from negative emotions rather than working through them, or they can be hostile.
例如，他们倾向于掩盖任何可能产生负面情绪后果的东西，选择分散自己的注意力，而不是克服负面情绪，或者他们可能怀有敌意。
Sarna and colleagues found that poor emotional regulation played a role in hostility related to vulnerable narcissism.
萨尔纳和同事发现，不良的情绪调节与弱势自恋相关的敌意有一定的关系。
Do you know of someone who exhibits these characteristics of low psychological maturity?
你知道有谁表现出这些低心理成熟的特征吗？
And number five, they have a strong need for the presence of others.
第五，他们对他人的存在有强烈的需求。
Emotionally immature people often feel uncomfortable spending time on their own perhaps because solitude forces people to be alone with their thoughts and emotions.
情感上不成熟的人往往会觉得独处不舒服，也许是因为孤独迫使人们独自面对自己的思想和情感。
Something that emotionally immature people are not comfortable. Why might this be?
情绪不成熟的人会觉得不舒服。为什么会这样呢？
Spending time with others could serve as a distraction for emotionally immature people to take their minds off of something emotionally taxing that they may wish to bury.
花时间和他人在一起对情绪不成熟的人来说可以分散注意力，使他们的注意力从自己可能想要埋葬的有着沉重情绪的事情上转移。
It takes a sense of emotional maturity to be introspective and feel your emotions fully.
内省和充分地感受自己的情绪需要一种情感成熟的感觉。
The impact of prolonged emotional immaturity can affect relationships and personal life.
长期的情绪不成熟会影响人际关系和个人生活。
Thanks for watching, and we'll see you soon.
感谢收看，下期视频见。
