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Hi, Psych2Go family. Welcome back to another video. Before we begin, we would like to thank you all for the love and support you've given us.
嗨，大家伙，欢迎回来。在开始之前我们想感谢一下大家给予我们的爱和支持。
Here at Psych2Go, our mission is to make psychology and self-help videos more accessible to everyone.
在Psych2Go，我们的任务是让每个人都能更容易地接触心理学和自助视频。
Now back to the video. Have you ever been with someone you thought was the one, but then the relationship somehow ended?
现在我们回到视频。你是否有过这样的经历：你曾经和一个你认为是命中注定的人在一起，但后来这段感情却莫名其妙地结束了？
Do you think you might've hurt them or damaged your bond with them without even realizing it?
你有没有觉得自己可能在无意识到的情况下伤害了他或者破坏了你们之间的关系？
Here are eight harmful behaviors that you need to avoid.
下面是你需要避免的8种有害行为。
Number one, you spend too much time together.
第一，在一起的时间太多。
Did you know that spending too much time with your partner can actually be bad for your relationship?
你知道吗，花太多时间和你的伴侣在一起实际上会对你们的关系有害。
Sometimes when you do everything together all the time with your partner, you may end up being pulled away from your other important relationships, like your friends and family.
有时当你总是和伴侣在一起做所有的事情时，你可能会远离其他重要的关系，比如朋友和家人。
It may even keep you from pursuing your own goals and interests.
这样甚至会阻碍你追求自己的目标和兴趣。
When you start to feel like you're losing your individuality and independence, you may end up blaming and resenting your partner for it.
当你开始觉得自己正在失去个性和独立性时，你可能会因此责怪和怨恨你的伴侣。
Number two, you lack an openness to experience.
第二，不愿去经历新鲜事物。
Have you ever found yourself falling into a routine together? Closing off from new experiences?
你是否发现自己陷入了一种循规蹈矩的生活常态？不愿接触新鲜事物？
A lack of openness to experience can cause you to lose all the excitement in your relationship.
缺乏经历会让你失去恋爱中的激情。
When you stop trying new things or let yourself be spontaneous and free together, you may end up following a rigid and predictable pattern.
当你停止尝试新事物，或者让自己顺其自然、自由自在地在一起时，你可能最终会遵循一个死板的、可预测的模式。
This may keep you and your partner from feeling fulfilled and satisfied with your relationship.
这可能会让你和自己的伴侣对你俩的关系感到满足。
Number three, you lack open communication.
第三，缺乏开放的沟通。
Are you afraid to tell your partner something in fear that they'll get angry at you? Or do you roll your eyes and treat their honesty with sarcasm and dismissiveness?
你会因为怕他们生气而害怕告诉你的伴侣一些事情吗？或者你会翻白眼，以讽刺和轻蔑的态度对待伴侣的诚实吗？
These are kinds of behaviors that can drive a wedge between couples and foster secrecy, dishonesty and distrust.
这些行为会让夫妻之间产生隔阂，并生出秘密、不诚实和不信任。
When you lack the ability to openly communicate with your partner and speak freely with them, your relationship may take a turn for the worse.
当你没有能力和伴侣进行开诚布公的交流时，你们的关系可能会变得更糟。
After all, communication is key in a healthy and enduring relationship.
毕竟，沟通是关系健康持久的关键。
Number four, you lie to keep the peace.
第四，为了维持和平而撒谎。
Have there been moments where you feel tempted to lie to keep a fight from breaking out?
你有没有这样过，用谎话来避免争吵？
Instead of hiding or lying, you should be able to communicate honestly with them.
与其隐瞒或撒谎，你应该坦诚布公地和伴侣交谈。
A strong and loving relationship can't be built on the foundation of lies no matter how small or well-intentioned the lie is.
无论谎言多么小，多么善意，牢固而相爱的关系都无法建立在谎言的基础之上。
Without honesty, there can be no emotional intimacy, and without that, you're likely to drift apart from each other.
没有诚实，就没有亲密的情感，没有诚实，你们可能会彼此疏远。
Number five, you run away from fights.
第五，逃避争吵。
Did you know that it's actually quite healthy for couples to fight from time to time.
你知道吗，夫妻时不时吵架其实是健康关系的表现。
Having conflicts shows that you and your partner can be honest and open with each other.
有冲突表明你和你的伴侣可以坦诚相待。
When you resolve the issues in a way that doesn't hurt or attack the other person, then you end up strengthening your relationship.
当你以一种不伤害或不攻击他人的方式解决问题时，你们的关系最终就能得到巩固。
On the other hand, running away from conflict won't solve anything.
另一方面，逃避冲突并不能解决任何问题。
You may end up bottling up your negative emotions and resenting each other in your relationship.
在恋爱中，你可能会压抑自己的负面情绪，彼此怨恨。
Number six, you act passive aggressive.
第六，消极攻击。
Do you sometimes avoid your partner, tell them backhanded compliments or give them the cold shoulder.
你会有时避开伴侣，间接赞美他们或冷落他们吗？
These are examples of passive aggressiveness, and it's a maladaptive way of dealing with your problems in a relationship.
这些都是消极攻击的例子，是一种不当的处理感情问题的方式。
If you or your partner act passive aggressive to each other instead of confronting your issues or being direct about your wants and needs, it shows emotional immaturity, and it may turn your relationship toxic.
如果你或你的伴侣对彼此采取被动攻击的态度，而不是直面你们的问题或直接表达你们的欲望和需求，这表明了你们情感上的不成熟，可能会让你们的关系变得更糟。
Number seven, you nag and criticize.
第七，唠叨和批评。
Do you nag or criticize your partner a lot? This is a way of asserting your dominance and being unsupportive of them.
你是否经常唠叨或批评你的伴侣？这其实是一种维护你自己的支配地位而打压他们的方式。
It sends them a message that you feel superior to them and that they should always do as you say.
这给他们传递了一个信息：你觉得自己比他们优越，他们应该永远听你的。
In a healthy relationship, you should respect your partner and give them the freedom to make their own decisions.
在一段健康的关系中，你应该尊重你的伴侣，给他们自己做决定的自由。
Constantly nagging them, especially about the things they enjoy, can lead to resentment.
不断地唠叨，尤其唠叨他们喜欢的事情，可能会导致怨恨。
Number eight, you're no longer affectionate.
第八，爱意渐淡。
Do you keep that romantic spark alive?
你内心浪漫的火花是否有一直燃烧着？
Being neglectful of your partner's emotional needs and not showing enough affection is one of the quickest ways to ruin a relationship.
忽视伴侣的情感需求，没有表现出足够的爱是破坏关系最快的方式之一。
While it's normal for the initial excitement and passion to dwindle over time, it's still important to remind your partner that you love them.
虽然最初的兴奋和激情随着时间的推移而减弱是正常的，但时不时提醒伴侣你爱他们仍然很重要。
Whether it's buying gifts or just giving them a kiss and a hug, showing any kind of affection is important to a relationship.
无论是买礼物还是一个吻、一个拥抱，任何一种情感的表达对你们的关系都是很重要的。
Do you relate to any of the behaviors mentioned here? Let us know in the comments below.
你的行为和这里提到的有重合吗？请在下方的评论区告诉我们。
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如果你觉得本期视频有帮助，请一定要喜欢并与那些可能从中受益的人分享。
Also, don't forget to hit the subscribe button for more Psych2Go videos, and as always, thanks for watching and see you in our next video.
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