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Hey, Psych2Go-ers, and welcome back to our channel. Thank you all so much for all the love that you've given us.
嗨，psych2go的朋友们，欢迎回到我们的频道。非常感谢大家给我们的爱。
Your ongoing support has helped us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone, so thank you. Now, let's continue.
大家一直以来的支持能够帮助我们让每个人都能更好地了解心理学和心理健康，所以谢谢你们。现在我们继续。
Isn't having a new boyfriend or girlfriend so exciting?
有一个新的男朋友或者女朋友是不是很兴奋？
There are butterflies and flirty texts, brushes on the arm that make you light up, and long conversations over the phone.
有蝴蝶啊调情的短信啊，如同轻抚手臂一样让人心花怒放，还能煲时间超长的电话粥。
The beginning of a new relationship can feel so heady and come with a head rush of emotions and thoughts, but how can you be sure that your new bae is ready for a romantic relationship?
一段新恋情的开始会让人感到兴奋，各种情绪和想法涌上心头，但是怎么能确定你的新恋人已经准备好开启一段浪漫的恋情了呢？
How do you find out if you're both on the same page? To help you gain more clarity in your situation, here are five signs that someone isn't ready.
怎样才能知道你们的想法是否一致呢？为了让你更清楚自己的处境，这里有5个迹象表明他们还没有准备好。
Number one, they're going out with a lot of different people.
第一，他们会和很多不同的人约会。
Have you ever been in a situation where you're getting to know someone and are starting to develop feelings only to find out that they're going on multiple dates with other people?
你是否有过这样的情况：你开始了解一个人，之后对他产生了感觉，但却发现他和很多人都有约会？
It can be jarring and disheartening to find out the person you like is seeing other people.
当你发现自己喜欢的人在和别人约会时你会感到不愉快和沮丧。
According to GlobalNews.com, this is a common scenario due to the popularity of dating apps.
据GlobalNews.com报道，由于约会软件的普及，这种情况很常见。
Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and countless more have vastly widened the pool for potential partners.
Tinder、Bumble、Hinge以及其他无数应用程序极大地拓宽了潜在伴侣的范围。
Online dating expert Julie Spira, while advocating for casting a wider net, also explained the darker side to casting such a wide net.
网上约会专家朱莉·斯皮拉在提倡广泛撒网的同时，也说明了撒网的阴暗面。
She says that if someone continues to play the field and doesn't take a digital leap of faith with one person, they may end up on a merry-go-round and end up in a series of one-and-done dates, or dates that don't go past a few weeks.
她说，如果一个人一直玩弄感情，对某个人的信任没有质的飞跃，那么他可能会像旋转木马一样，以一系列的一次性约会或者持续不到几周的约会而告终。
If this is happening to you and you're not currently seeing anyone else, Elite Daily notes that having a straightforward conversation about where the two of you are could be helpful in establishing what the dynamic will be moving forward in a committed relationship.
如果这种情况发生在你身上，而你目前没有和其他人约会，《精英日报》指出，要就你们两人的处境进行一次直接的对话，这将有助于建立一段稳定的关系。
Number two, they bring up their ex often.
第二，他们经常提起前任。
Have you ever wondered why your new partner keeps bringing up their ex?
你有没有想过为什么你的新伴侣总是提起他们的前任？
Have you been stuck thinking that it could mean something deeper?
你会不会觉得这里边儿有什么深层次的含义？
Maybe they mention their ex out of nowhere or reach out to their ex on the birthday or still keep in touch with their ex's family.
或许他们会突然提起前任，或者会在前任生日的时候联系他们，或者仍然和前任的家人保持联系。
If you're entering into a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable because they have unresolved feelings for someone else, this could lead to a big hurdle in trying to properly connect with them.
如果你和一个没有感情的人谈恋爱，因为他/她对别人尚有未解决的感情，这可能会给你和他/她建立正常的关系带来很大的障碍。
If they strictly engage in polite conversation with you and don't talk to you about anything deeper or more meaningful,
如果他对你一直彬彬有礼，不与你进行任何更深刻或更有意义的交谈，
and it feels like they push you away when you get too close to an emotional boundary, then this is a sure sign that they aren't ready for a real relationship with you.
感觉就像当你太接近情感界限时他们会把你推开，那么这是一个肯定的信号，表明他们还没有准备好和你建立一段真正的关系。
Number three, they don't know what they want.
第三，他们不知道自己想要什么。
Have you ever expressed exactly what you need from someone, only to be met with an, "I don't know," from the other person?
你有没有在明确表达自己想从对方那里得到什么的时候而对方给你的回答却是 “我不知道” ？
It's hard for someone to be all in and ready for a relationship with you if he, she, or they is unsure of what they want.
如果他、她或他们不确定自己想要什么，那么全身心投入并准备好和你交往是很困难的。
It puts you in an unstable kind of situation with little support.
这会让你处于一种没有人支持你的不稳定状态。
Wishy-washiness and a shaky sense of commitment is never a good sign when it comes to establishing a relationship.
当涉及到建立一段关系时，优柔寡断和不坚定的承诺绝不是一个好迹象。
Number four, they're flaky.
第四，他们很脆弱。
Does your partner text you last minute and bail on plans or dates all the time?
你的伴侣是否总在最后一分钟给你发短信取消计划或者约会？
Or if they do happen to show up, are they chronically late to every gathering?
或者就算他们出现了，但却每次约会都都迟到？
This is a major problem when your partner has an inability to follow through on plans or arrive on time.
当你的伴侣无法完成计划或准时到达时，这就是一个大问题。
This type of behavior shows a lack of commitment and a skewed sense of priorities.
这种行为表现出缺乏承诺和对优先事项的不正确认识。
If they can't or refuse to make time for you, then you simply aren't important enough for them, as they'll always have better places to be and friends to hang out with.
如果他们不能或拒绝为你抽出时间，那么你对他们来说就不够重要，因为他们总是有更好的地方可以去，有更好的朋友一起玩。
And number five, there's a lack of progression in the relationship.
第五，关系缺乏进展。
Does it feel like your relationship is at a standstill? Has there been too much distance between dates?
你有没有觉得你们的关系处于停滞状态？约会的时间间隔得太长？
Has it felt like there have been any steps taken forward in the relationship at all?
你有感觉到你们的关系有任何的进展吗？
When you're suffering a lack of progression in your relationship, there might never be a mention of a future together, or there's no immediate plans being made, or you're struggling to feel emotionally fulfilled.
当你们的关系缺乏进展时，你们可能永远不会想到将来会在一起，或者没有立即制定的计划，或者你们正在努力获得情感上的满足。
According to Lifestyle.com, the progression of a relationship typically occurs in five stages.
据Lifestyle.com网站报道，一段感情的发展通常分为五个阶段。
Attraction and romance, reality sets in, disappointment, the stage in which conflicts get resolved and there is growth and a healthy partnership, and finally stability and commitment.
吸引和浪漫 开始遇到现实问题 失望 冲突得到解决感情加深且更健康 最后是稳定和承诺
If it feels like this dynamic is in limbo and isn't headed towards the next stage, it could very well mean your partner simply isn't ready to take the plunge and be in a relationship.
如果你觉得这段关系处于不稳定状态，没有走向下一个阶段，这很可能意味着你的伴侣还没有准备好投入这段感情。
Did you relate to any of the signs mentioned?
上面的迹象你有遇到过吗？
If you're unsure of your relationship status and feel like you're holding onto a shaky sense of commitment from your partner, then it's time to give things a hard look and choose to fix the issues or move on.
如果你对自己的感情状态不确定，感觉伴侣的承诺不稳定，那么是时候认真看待事情，选择解决问题或继续前进了。
You'll figure out what's best for you.
你会明白对自己来说什么是最好的。
