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Has someone taken advantage of you or wronged you in some way?
是否有人曾经利用过你或者伤害过你?
Do you get a bubbling feeling in your gut, or heat rising in your face?
您是否感到肠道冒泡，或脸上发热？
Anger is one of the natural responses to hurt, and depending on how you deal with your emotions, these negative emotions can stay with you for a long time.
愤怒是对伤害的自然反应之一，取决于你如何处理你的情绪，这些负面情绪会伴随你很长时间。
Prolonged anger can actually be dangerous since it doesn't only affect your mental health, but can also cause physical symptoms like backaches, migraines, and fatigue.
长时间的愤怒实际上是很危险的，因为它不仅会影响你的心理健康，还会导致背痛、偏头痛和疲劳等身体症状。
When you're extremely furious at someone who's done you wrong, do you secretly wish bad things upon them, and hope that they suffer more than you did? You may even think about revenge.
当你对那些伤害过你的人感到极度愤怒时，你是否暗地里希望他们遭受不幸，希望他们比你遭受更多的痛苦? 你甚至可能会想到复仇。
However, when we have thoughts like this, it always backfires. Instead of making the person who made us angry suffer, we're actually tormenting ourselves with these negative thoughts.
然而，当我们有这样的想法时，它总是适得其反。我们不是让使我们生气的人受苦，而是用这些消极的想法折磨自己。
And as the saying goes, holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting others to die.
就像俗话说的，紧抓愤怒情绪就像自己喝着毒药，却期待看到别人死亡。
This is why it's so important to understand our emotions, like anger, where it comes from, the trigger behind it, and how to cope with it in a healthy manner, instead of oppressing it or acting upon it impulsively.
这就是为什么了解我们的情绪如此重要，比如愤怒，它来自哪里，它背后的触发因素，以及如何以健康的方式应对它，而不是压制它或冲动地采取行动。
So, why do we get angry?
那么，我们为什么会生气呢?
Anger is actually linked to fear. For instance, you may maybe angry at someone who had violated your trust or has taken advantage of you.
愤怒实际上与恐惧有关。例如，你可能会对那些辜负了你的信任或利用了你的人感到愤怒。
Anger is the reaction and the fear of getting hurt. It's important to have emotions like fear and anger because they let you know when someone has crossed your boundaries or has hurt you emotionally.
愤怒是对受伤的反应和恐惧。拥有恐惧和愤怒这样的情绪很重要，因为当有人越过你的界限或在情感上伤害了你时，它们会让你知道。
It's a signal to help you prevent the situation from happening again in the future. However, when you suppress or deal with it in an unhealthy way, these negative feelings can grow more intense.
这是一个信号，可以帮助你防止这种情况在未来再次发生。然而，当你以一种不健康的方式抑制或处理它时，这些负面情绪会变得更加强烈。
This is also known as repressed anger.
这也被称为压抑的愤怒。
So where does repressed anger come from? Why is it so hard to listen to your emotions such as anger and acknowledge it? Do you subconsciously keep telling yourself that you shouldn't feel this way?
那么，压抑的愤怒从何而来呢? 为什么倾听你的情绪，比如愤怒，并承认它如此困难? 你是否在潜意识里一直告诉自己，你不应该有这种感觉?
Well, repressed anger and poor anger management may be learned in childhood.
压抑愤怒和糟糕的愤怒管理可能是在童年时期习得的。
Your parents have a large impact on you as a child, especially in shaping your values, beliefs, and behaviors. This is especially true in how you learn to deal with your emotions.
当你还是个孩子的时候，你的父母对你有很大的影响，尤其是在塑造你的价值观、信仰和行为方面。这在你如何学会处理你的情绪方面尤其正确。
As a child, you may have expressed your anger through tantrums, which your parents may have dealt with by punishing you.
作为一个孩子，你可能会通过发脾气来表达你的愤怒，而你的父母可能会通过惩罚你来应对。
From this, you are taught to associate your negative emotions, such as anger, with being bad and unlovable.
由此，你被教导将你的负面情绪（如愤怒）与坏和不可爱联系起来。
Therefore, it conditioned you to ignore or to unhealthily express any bad emotions that you felt. Beliefs such as, anger is a bad emotion or nobody likes angry people, may continue on to adulthood.
因此，它使你习惯于忽略或不健康地表达你所感受到的任何不好的情绪。诸如“愤怒是一种不好的情绪”或“没有人喜欢愤怒的人”之类的信念可能会持续到成年。
This causes you to have unhealthy habits, where you don't express your emotions in a healthy manner.
这会导致你养成不健康的习惯，你不会以健康的方式表达你的情绪。
As a human being, it's natural for you to desire to be loved and accepted.
作为一个人，渴望被爱和被接受是很自然的。
When you end up developing beliefs that associate being angry with being bad, unlovable, and undesirable,
当你最终形成一种信念，把生气与坏的、不可爱的、不受欢迎的联系起来，
it's not a surprise that you'll start to suppress, avoid or invalidate these negative emotions. But the truth is, your feelings and emotions are trying to tell you something.
你会开始抑制、避免或否定这些负面情绪，这并不奇怪。但事实是，你的感觉和情绪试图告诉你一些事情。
Feeling anger is a way for your subconscious to protect yourself from pain and hurt. It's your body's way of telling you how you're really feeling about a certain situation.
感到愤怒是你的潜意识保护自己免受痛苦和伤害的一种方式。这是你的身体告诉你，你对某种情况的真实感受的方式。
It's a reflection of your mental state of health. And this is why losing touch with your emotions can be harmful.
这反映了你的精神健康状况。这就是为什么与你的情绪失去联系是有害的。
If you're out of touch with these emotions, you might have a hard time identifying whether someone has crossed your boundaries.
如果你不了解这些情绪，你可能很难确定某人是否越过了你的界限。
This might also be one of the reasons why you always find yourself dealing with people who love taking advantage of you longer than you should.
这也可能是为什么你总是发现自己与那些喜欢占你便宜的人打交道时所用的时间比你原本花费的时间要长。
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