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Did you know that there are different types of narcissists?
你知道存在不同类型的自恋者吗?
When we think of a narcissist, we think of someone who is self-absorbed and has little to no empathy for others.
当我们想到自恋者时，我们想到的是只顾自己，对他人几乎没有同理心的人。
But that's not all narcissists.
但并不是所有的自恋者都是这样。
In this video we will cover four different types of narcissists.
在本视频中，我们将介绍四种不同类型的自恋者。
This video is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice.
本视频仅用于教育目的，并不能替代专业意见。
With that said, here are some different types of narcissists.
话虽如此，以下是一些不同类型的自恋者。
Number one, the grandiose narcissist.
第一，浮夸型自恋者。
Have you ever encountered a person who is charming, self-absorbed, entitled, aggressive, and authoritarian.
你可曾遇到过这样一个人:他充满魅力、固执己见、自以为是、咄咄逼人、独裁专制。
You feel that they are overly callous, aggressive, and think highly of themselves without trying to put themselves in other people's shoes.
你会觉得他们过于冷酷无情，咄咄逼人，自视甚高，却不设身处地为别人着想。
They're also argumentative and wanna win in every altercation or in a slight misunderstanding.
他们也很爱争辩，想在每一次争吵或小小的误解中获胜。
They are classified as grandiose narcissists.
他们被归类为浮夸自恋者。
They portray the classical presentation of narcissistic personality disorder according to the criteria listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, DSM.
根据《精神疾病诊断与统计手册》(DSM)中列出的标准，他们描绘了自恋型人格障碍的经典表现。
They often seek validation from outward sources.
他们经常从外界寻求认可。
When they are in a romantic relationship, grandiose narcissists try to obtain power by game playing.
当他们处于恋爱关系中时，浮夸的自恋者试图通过玩游戏来获得权力。
As parents they view their children as a narcissistic supply or an extension of themselves in order to obtain validation from other people.
作为父母，他们认为孩子是一种自恋的产物，或者是自己的延伸，目的是为了获得他人的认可。
A grandiose narcissist is extroverted and displays overt expressions of superiority and entitlement.
浮夸的自恋者性格外向，会公开表达自己的优越感和权利感。
Number two, the vulnerable narcissist.
第二，脆弱型自恋者。
The vulnerable narcissist is a person who appears unapproachable, unfriendly or cold, negative and unassertive.
脆弱型自恋者是一个看起来难以接近、不友好或、冷漠、消极和不自信的人。
A person who is both high in neuroticism and self-centered will likely worry about their perceived superior status.
一个既神经质又以自我为中心的人很可能会担心他们被认为的优越地位。
They thrive on attention and accolades.
他们在关注和赞誉中茁壮成长。
They tend to give hints at how hard they've been working or how much they've achieved.
他们倾向于暗示他们工作有多努力，或者他们取得了多少成就。
Yet, look puzzled, and perhaps even become astonished when they receive acknowledgement for their hard work or significant achievements.
然而，当他们的努力工作或重大成就得到认可时，他们可能会表现出困惑，甚至惊讶。
They have a self image that is divided into a positive self image with excessive pride, and a negative self image that is filled with shame.
他们的自我形象被分为一个充满骄傲的积极自我形象和一个充满羞耻的消极自我形象。
When they receive constructive criticism and gentle feedback they become high hyper sensitive.
当他们接受建设性的批评和温和的反馈时，他们会变得高度高度敏感。
Receiving only positive feedback gives them the ability to bury the negative shame-filled self image.
只接受积极的反馈会让他们有能力埋葬充满羞耻的消极自我形象。
When these individuals receive feedback they perceive them as an attack on their character, and this activates powerful feelings of self disgust and self blame and unavoidable shame.
当这些人收到反馈时，他们认为这些反馈是对他们性格的攻击，这激活了强烈的自我厌恶、自我责备和不可避免的羞耻感。
Vulnerable narcissists also blame other people and circumstance for their mistakes.
脆弱型自恋者还会把自己的错误归咎于他人和环境。
They rarely accept responsibility for their actions.
他们很少为自己的行为承担责任。
Number three, the communal narcissist.
第三，集体型自恋者。
Have you ever encountered a person that was kind on the surface but they're mean once you got to know them?
你有没有遇到过这样的人，他们表面上很善良，但一旦你了解他们，他们就会变得很刻薄?
If you have, then perhaps you're actually dealing with a communal narcissist.
如果你有遇到过，那么也许你面对的是一个集体型自恋者。
On the surface a communal narcissist emphasizes warmth, agreeableness and relatedness.
表面上，集体型自恋者强调热情、随和和亲近感。
They wanna uphold an image of the most trustworthy and supportive person by the public.
他们想要树立公众最信任和支持自己的形象。
They try to gain this by portraying an image of friendliness and kindness.
他们试图通过塑造友好和善良的形象来获得这一点。
It's not wrong to actually be kind and friendly towards others.
对他人友善并没有错。
However, the key point here is the communal narcissist's motives are grandiosity, esteem, entitlement, and power.
然而，这里的关键点是集体型自恋者的动机是出于自大、尊重、权利和权力。
And number four, the malignant narcissist.
第四，恶毒型自恋者。
Narcissism exists on a spectrum.
自恋的程度各异。
And at the extreme end lies the malignant narcissist.
最极端的是恶毒型自恋者。
This kind of narcissist is paranoid, immoral, cruel, aggressive, and sadistic.
这种自恋者是偏执的、不道德的、残忍的、好斗的、喜欢虐待的。
By creating chaos and taking people down, they feel pleasure.
通过制造混乱和打击别人，他们会感到快乐。
They may not be necessarily grandiose, extroverted, or neurotic, but the characteristics that this kind of narcissist has are closely associated with psychopathy, the dark triad and antisocial personality disorder.
他们可能不一定是浮夸的、外向的或神经质的，但这种自恋者的特征与精神变态、黑暗三性格和反社会人格障碍密切相关。
With the rise of social media we also find the simultaneous rise of the label narcissist.
随着社交媒体的兴起，我们还发现自恋者的标签也在同时兴起。
It is turned into a buzzword, therefore refrain from labeling as it can actually be demonizing.
自恋者变成了一个流行词，因此不要给它贴上标签，因为它实际上可能会被妖魔化。
Of course when a truly narcissistic person receives an accurate diagnosis from a licensed professional, it will actually be helpful as it shes light on their symptoms and gives 'em an opportunity to access a community of similar people.
当然，当一个真正自恋的人从有执照的专业人士那里得到准确的诊断时，这实际上是有帮助的，因为这揭示了他们的症状，并让他们有机会接触到相似的人组成的群体。
So that they're on the road to recovery.
这样他们就可以获得恢复。
Also remember narcissism exists on a spectrum and some of us may have that narcissistic trait in us.
还要记住，自恋的程度各不相同，我们中的一些人可能会有自恋的特质。
And that's actually all right.
这其实没什么。
The most important point here is to be self-aware and to have the drive to change yourself for the better.
最重要的一点是要有自知之明，要有让自己变得更好的动力。
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