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Hey, Psych2Goers. Do you have a crush you wanna ask out?
嘿，Psych2Go的观众。你有想约出来的心动对象吗？
Are you pretty new to asking someone out on a date? Where do you begin?
你是第一次约别人出去约会吗？你会怎么开始呢？
Well, there are a few ways you can approach asking your crush out.
这里有几种你可以约心动对象出去的方式。
We're gonna break down a few ways on how you can.
我们会教你几种方法。
So here are a few tips on how to ask your crush out.
这里有一些关于如何约你的心动对象出去的小建议。
Number one, ask them to a particular event.
第一，邀请他们参加一个特别的活动。
One way to ease into that important question you wanna ask your crush is to ask them out to a particular event.
你想问暗恋对象的重要问题，一种缓和的方法是邀请他们出去参加一个特定的活动。
That possible awkward silence may be shortened if you mention the event you wanna take them to shortly before.
如果你提到不久前你想带他们去参加的活动，这种尴尬的沉默可能会缩短。
Let's say you have tickets to a concert. You might ask them what kinda music they like.
假设你有音乐会的门票。你可能会问他喜欢什么样的音乐。
Then you may bring up the specific musician whose concert you wanna go to.
然后你可能会提到你想要去听音乐会的具体音乐家。
If they mention they like the musician or band, then you can hypothetically say,
如果他提到喜欢这位音乐家或这个乐队，那么你可以如设想的那样说，
"Me too, I love them. I was gonna go to their concert this week and have another ticket. Do you wanna go with me?"
“我也是，我爱死他们了。我本打算这周去看他们的演唱会，多出了一张票。你想和我一起去吗”
Then, they'll hopefully have two reasons to say yes to your request.
然后，希望他们有两个理由答应你的请求。
Just make sure to bring up that it's a date later on before the concert, so they know.
只是一定要告诉他这是演唱会前的约会，这样他们就知道了。
Number two, compliment them first.
第二，先表扬他们。
Instead of approaching someone you find attractive and immediately jumping into the, "Will you go out with me?"
错误的做法是--靠近你觉得有吸引力的人，然后立即跳到“你愿意和我约会吗？”
Catch their eye with a smile.
用微笑吸引他的目光。
You want them to know you've been looking at them, as long as it's not creepy.
你想让他知道你一直在看他，只要不让人觉得毛骨悚然就行。
So smile and make a good amount of eye contact.
微笑并进行大量的眼神交流。
I wouldn't aim for staring, but let them know you're saying a friendly hi to them with your eyes.
我不会盯着他们看，但要让他们知道你在用眼睛友好地跟他打招呼。
Then approach them with a compliment.
然后用赞美的口吻接近他。
Let them know why you like them.
让他知道你为什么喜欢他。
If you've been talking for a while, mention how you appreciate their passion for what they do, their talent, their personality, or something else.
如果你们已经聊了一段时间了，说说你是如何欣赏他对工作的热情、他的才华、他的个性或其他东西的。
Compliment their outfit or a feature you like, then ask them out on a date.
称赞他的着装或你喜欢的特征，然后约他出去约会。
Good ol' Sigh may say something like, "I really like your smile."
你可能会说：“我真的喜欢你的笑容。”
Then they would reply with perhaps a, "Oh, thanks."
然后他可能会回答：“哦，谢谢。”
And Sigh would reply with, "Would you wanna go on a date with me sometime?"
你可以这样回应:“你愿意找个时间和我约会吗?”
It's a simple approach.
这是一种简单的方法。
And either they'll say yes or no.
他要么会说愿意，要么不愿意。
Muster up that courage and confidence and simply ask, you don't wanna at not asking them at all.
鼓起勇气和信心，简单地询问，你不会想要完全不问他吧。
Number three, get to know them better or befriend them first.
第三，更好地了解他，或者先和他交朋友。
Are you friends with your crush?
你和你的心上人是朋友吗？
This may make it easier to ask them out, or more difficult.
这可能会让约他出去更容易，也可能会更难。
Situations vary.
情况各有不同。
But if you hardly know your crush but often see them, try to befriend them a bit first.
但是，如果你几乎不了解自己的心动对象，但却经常见到他，那就先试着和他成为朋友吧。
That way, they get a chance to get to know you and perhaps see what makes you attractive and unique.
这样，他就有机会了解你，或许还能看到你的魅力以及独一无二之处。
If you're afraid of the friend zone, simply try to get to know them a bit first before asking.
如果你害怕朋友界限，那就先试着去了解他，然后再问。
Try to have a few moments and conversations with them that are more than small talk.
试着花一些时间和他交谈，而不是闲聊。
This way, they'll get more comfortable around you and may find that they wanna hang around you more, perhaps on a date.
这样，他会在你身边变得更自在，可能会发现他更想和你在一起，也许是在约会。
Number four, give them hints that you you like them first with flirting.
第四，先通过打情骂俏暗示你喜欢他。
Have you ever felt the awkward silence after asking someone something they didn't expect?
问了别人意想不到的问题后，你有没有感到尴尬的沉默？
Or maybe you've heard rumors about it.
或者你可能听说过此类谣言。
Well, to avoid this, give your crush hints that you like them so they're not completely caught off guard.
为了避免这种情况，给你喜欢的人一些暗示，这样他就不会完全措手不及。
Try a bit of flirting, good eye contact, a few compliments.
尝试一些打情骂俏，良好的眼神交流，一些赞美。
Maybe try the classic, look, don't look, look.
或许可以试试经典的，看，别看，看。
Nope, I have no idea what I'm talking about?
不，我不知道我在说什么？
You simply look their way, they look back, you give a smile and then look away, still smiling.
你只是看着他的方向，他回头看，你微笑着，然后把目光移开，仍然微笑着。
This often happens naturally but with much more panic.
这通常是自然发生的，但会带来更多的恐慌。
Instead, embrace that flirty smile and then look away.
相反，试试那个打情骂俏的微笑，然后把目光移开。
You're giving them a quick hint that you like them.
你是在给他一个快速的暗示，表明你喜欢他。
Now, time to approach them with a compliment and then ask them out.
现在，是时候用赞美的口吻接近他，然后约他出去了。
Number five, talk about something you both have in common, then mention how you wanna continue the conversation somewhere after.
第五，谈一谈你们俩的共同点，然后说出你想在之后的某个地方继续谈话。
If you're still a bit fearful of that transition into asking them out, this method may help.
如果你仍然有点害怕过渡到约他出去，这个方法可能会有所帮助。
You can start up a conversation with them, preferably a good one, and then mention how you should both continue the conversation after work or school, at this nice coffee shop or diner you love.
你可以和他开始一段对话，最好是一个好的对话，然后提到你们应该如何在下班或放学后，在你喜欢的咖啡店或餐馆继续对话。
This way, you can ease into the question or statement a bit easier.
这样，你就可以更轻松地进入提问或交谈了。
They'll hopefully wanna continue the conversation and at the nice location you mentioned too.
他们希望在你提到的好地方继续对话。
If they say yes, give them the address and time or tell them you'll meet them somewhere so you can walk or drive to the place together if they're comfortable with that.
如果他答应了，告诉他地址和时间，或者告诉他你会在某个地方和他见面，这样如果他觉得舒服的话，你们可以一起步行或开车去那个地方。
Number six, ask them out when they're preferably alone and in-person so things are more comfortable and so you're not interrupted during your conversation.
第六，最好在他们单独和面对面的时候约他出去，这样会更自然，这样你就不会在谈话中被打断。
Try asking out your crush when they're alone or have a moment away from their friends or coworkers.
当他独处或离开朋友或同事时，试着问问你的心动对象。
This will give you both some privacy and make responding and exchanging information a lot easier.
这将为你们双方提供一些隐私，并使回复和交换信息变得容易得多。
It's also a good idea to ask them out in-person, as it can show you care about them and are confident in asking them out.
当面约他也是个好主意，因为这能表明你关心他，并且有信心约他出去。
It will also give them a chance to see your expression, how much you like them, and give you a chance to see how they react.
这也会让他有机会看到你的表情，你有多喜欢他，也让你有机会看到他的反应。
If you can't seem to find a moment alone with them but have their number or follow them on social media, a message or text works almost just as well.
如果你似乎找不到与他独处的时间，但有他的号码，或者在社交媒体上关注他，那么发一条信息或发一条短信也差不多。
And number seven, find your courage and stay true to your initial feelings.
第七，鼓起勇气，忠于最初的感受。
Asking someone out can take a good amount of courage sometimes, especially if you're not used to it.
有时候，约别人出去需要很大的勇气，特别是当你还不习惯的时候。
But finding your courage and making the that step to ask your crush out can be worth it.
但是，找到你的勇气，迈出那一步，去约你喜欢的人，这是值得的。
An important part of asking anyone out is also to stay true to yourself and your feelings.
约任何人出去的一个重要部分也是对自己和你的感觉保持真实。
Don't be afraid to smile if you feel like it and show them that you're happy.
如果你想笑，不要害怕微笑，并向他们表明你很开心。
You're holding onto your confidence and feelings by doing this.
通过这样做，你可以保持你的信心和感觉。
You know how you feel, you like them.
你知道你的感受，你喜欢他。
And if they say no to your request and let you know that they're not interested in you romantically,
如果他拒绝了你的请求，并让你知道他对你的恋情不感兴趣，
then respectfully accept this and try not to take back your offer, deny your feelings or appear as if you don't care at all.
那么请恭敬地接受这一点，尽量不要收回你的提议，不要否认你的感受，也不要表现出你根本不在乎的样子。
For a moment, in a way, you did care about them.
有一段时间，在某种程度上，你确实关心他。
So you should respect their feelings and decisions and respect how you feel as well.
你应该尊重他的感受和决定，也要尊重你的感受。
You could tell them, "No problem," and smile at the fact that you had the courage and confidence to ask.
你可以告诉他“没问题”，然后对你有勇气和信心去问的事实微笑。
Then you can try your best to move on.
然后你可以尽你最大的努力继续前进。
As they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea and people's lives are often filled with many crushes.
正如他所说，天涯何处无芳草，人们的生活中经常充满了许多迷恋。
Perhaps there's someone out there crushing on you.
也许有人正对你心动。
So, how will you ask your crush out?
那么，你会如何约你的心动对象出去呢？
If you don't, will you regret it? We believe in you.
如果你不行动，你会后悔吗？我们相信你有所行动。
Feel free to comment your idea on how you wanna ask your crush out in the comment section down below.
欢迎在下面的评论区告诉我们你想要怎样约你喜欢的人出去。
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我们希望你喜欢这段视频，如果你确实喜欢，别忘了点赞，与某人、朋友、家人或喜欢的人分享。
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