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In "Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince," Hermione gets furious when she sees Ron kissing Lavender Brown.
在《哈利·波特与混血王子》中，赫敏看到罗恩亲吻拉文德·布朗时勃然大怒。
She casts a spell that causes a flock of birds to fly aggressively toward Ron, almost hurting him.
她施了一个咒语，导致一群鸟猛烈地飞向罗恩，差点伤害到他。
Like in Hermione's case, jealousy can drive us to do some pretty impulsive and sometimes wild things, but jealousy isn't always this obvious in real life, especially if your crush is trying to hide it.
就像赫敏的例子一样，嫉妒会驱使我们做出一些非常冲动的事情，有时甚至是疯狂的事情，但嫉妒在现实生活中并不总是那么明显，尤其是当你的暗恋对象试图隐藏它的时候。
According to a study by Dr. Brian Kenneth Gehl at the University of Iowa, someone's attachment style and personality can affect how they act when they're jealous.
根据爱荷华大学的Brian Kenneth Gehl博士的一项研究，一个人的依恋类型和个性会影响他们在嫉妒时的行为。
In this video, we'll talk about the different ways that people express jealousy and how to spot it in your crush.
在这段视频中，我们将讨论人们表达嫉妒的不同方式，以及如何在你喜欢的人身上发现嫉妒。
So if you think your crush might be jealous, keep watching to find out if they're showing any of these signs.
如果你认为你喜欢的人可能嫉妒了，那就继续观察，看看他们是否表现出了这些迹象。
Compensatory restoration.
补偿性恢复。
Has your crush been extra kind to you lately or giving you a lot more attention than usual?
你喜欢的人最近是否对你特别好，或者比平时更多地关注你?
If so, this could be their way of responding to jealousy through compensatory restoration.
如果是这样，这可能是他通过补偿性恢复来回应嫉妒的方式。
In other words, instead of focusing on the person they're jealous of, they're trying to strengthen their relationship with you.
换句话说，他不是把注意力集中在他嫉妒的人身上，而是试图加强他与你的关系。
According to a study published in the Western Journal of Communication, compensatory restoration is a common pro-social response to jealousy, meaning it can be positive and helpful.
根据发表在《西方传播杂志》上的一项研究，补偿性恢复是对嫉妒的一种常见的亲社会反应，这意味着它可以是积极和有益的。
Maybe you notice that your crush is asking you to hang out and text you more often or they start complimenting you a lot.
也许你注意到你喜欢的人约你出去玩，给你发短信，或者他开始经常称赞你。
They might even try to do things to improve themselves to get your attention, like dressing a little nicer when they know you'll be at a party.
他们甚至会尝试做一些事情来提高自己以引起你的注意，比如当他知道你要去参加聚会时，穿得更好一点。
But some reactions to jealousy aren't always so pleasant.
但有些嫉妒的反应并不总是那么愉快。
Let's look at some of the other signs that your crush might be jealous, but expressing it in a different way.
让我们来看看其他一些你喜欢的人可能在嫉妒的迹象，只是表达方式不同而已。
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
亲近你的朋友，更亲近你的敌人。
Another sign that your crush is jealous is that they've been talking down about someone you know, otherwise known as rival derogation.
你喜欢的人嫉妒的另一个迹象是，他们一直在贬低你认识的人，也就是所谓的对手贬低。
A 2011 study published in communication methods and measures identified rival- focused communication as one of the specific signs of jealousy.
2011年发表在《沟通方法与措施》上的一项研究发现，以竞争对手为中心的沟通是嫉妒的具体表现之一。
This could look like name calling or saying things to make you believe that the so-called rival, AKA the person they're jealous of isn't a good person.
这看起来像是谩骂或说一些让你相信所谓的对手，也就是他嫉妒的人不是一个好人的话。
If they're trying to hide their jealousy, they might subtly point out the person's bad qualities.
如果他们试图隐藏他的嫉妒，他可能会巧妙地指出这个人的坏品质。
Corey's always late.
科里总是迟到。
They can be so inconsiderate sometimes.
他有时候很不体谅别人。
Your crush might also engage in rival contact or talking to the person they're jealous of.
你喜欢的人也可能会与竞争对手接触，或者与他嫉妒的人交谈。
This contact doesn't always have to be confrontational.
这种接触不一定总是对抗性的。
If you notice that your crush is spending a suspicious amount of time with their supposed rival or suddenly trying to befriend them, it could be their subtle way of coping with jealousy.
如果你注意到你喜欢的人花了很长时间和他所谓的竞争对手在一起，或者突然想和他成为朋友，这可能是他应对嫉妒的微妙方式。
The freeze out.
冷落。
Has your crush been giving you the cold shoulder lately and you can't figure out why?
最近你喜欢的人对你很冷淡，而你却不知道为什么?
Well, they just might be trying to hide their jealousy.
他可能只是想掩饰他的嫉妒。
Dr. Laura Guerrero, professor at Arizona State University and her colleagues conducted a study that showed that avoidance is another major sign of jealousy.
亚利桑那州立大学教授劳拉·格雷罗博士和她的同事进行的一项研究表明，回避是嫉妒的另一个主要表现。
If your crush is engaging in avoidance, they may not only communicate with you less but strongly deny that they're jealous and completely shut down if you bring it up.
如果你喜欢的人在逃避，他们可能不仅会减少与你的交流，而且会强烈否认他嫉妒，如果你提起这件事，他会完全闭嘴。
If your crush has been unusually distant and avoids the topic of jealousy when you ask them about it, they could be trying to hide these feelings from you.
如果你喜欢的人一直异常疏远，当你问他嫉妒的话题时，他可能试图向你隐瞒这些感觉。
Keeping tabs.
留意动向。
Is your crush suddenly checking in on you, observing your behavior and asking what you're doing a little too often?
你喜欢的人会突然关注你，观察你的行为，问你最近做的事情是不是太频繁了?
Don't worry.
别担心。
We're not referring to stalker behavior, like Joe from the Netflix show "you."
我们指的不是跟踪狂的行为，比如Netflix电视剧《你》里的乔。
We just mean asking you maybe a few more details than usual about where you were and what you were doing, otherwise known as surveillance.
我们只是想问你一些比平时更多的细节比如你在哪里，在做什么，也就是所谓的监视。
If your crush is keeping tabs on you and they didn't do this before, they might be jealous and trying to hide it.
如果你喜欢的人一直在关注你，而他以前没有这样做过，他可能是嫉妒，并试图隐藏这一点。
According to a study conducted by clinical psychologist Dr. Rachel Elphinston, and researchers at the University of Queensland, surveillance can be a sign that your relationship means a lot to your crush.
根据临床心理学家Rachel Elphinston博士和昆士兰大学的研究人员进行的一项研究，监视可能是你的恋情对你的恋人很重要的一个信号。
However, in the same study, surveillance was also linked to rumination, meaning the person focused too much on negative jealous thoughts and this can lead to lower relationship satisfaction.
然而，在同一项研究中，监视也与沉思有关，这意味着人们过于关注消极的嫉妒想法，这可能会导致关系满意度降低。
It could be helpful to keep this in mind if your crush has been engaging in surveillance behaviors lately.
如果你喜欢的人最近有监视行为，记住这一点可能会有所帮助。
Now, we want to hear all of your experiences, Psych2Goers.
现在，我们想听听你们所有的经历，Psych2Go的观众们。
If you think your crush might be jealous of you, what are some other signs you're noticing?
如果你认为你喜欢的人可能会嫉妒你，你还注意到了哪些其他迹象呢?
And if you've ever been the jealous crush, how did you act?
如果你曾经是嫉妒的心动对象，你是如何表现的?
As always, we appreciate you watching this video and hope it will help you navigate this tricky topic just a little bit easier.
一如既往，我们感谢您观看本期视频，希望它能帮助您更轻松地了解这个棘手的话题。
Thanks for your support and see you next time, and remember, you matter.
谢谢你的支持，下次见，记住，你很重要。
