"Think about all the romance you see in movies", he says. "Watching them, you are reminded over and over of what you don't have, and you think, 'There must be something wrong with me.' It always comes back to the attitude that you are not worthy." Trying to keep up with society's demands can give the most self-assured woman/man fits of insecurity. Attempting to play too many roles, we fall behind. "This is a time of great stress," Gray says. "The more conveniences we have, the more complex our lives become. Especially among women, there is an epidemic of feeling overwhelmed." The desire for a quick fix, then, isn't always neurotic, but when it comes to the big issues of health and financial security, self-acceptance and spiritual growth, we're better off with the slow solution.