今天说说英语里最简单、也最复杂的两个词：“爱”和“恨”，英语的用法和中文很不一样！听Jenny, Adam教你如何使用英语的爱恨情仇！

关键词：

Love: 爱
Hate: 恨
The use of "love" and "hate" in English is completely different from Chinese: 爱、恨在英语里的用法和中文非常不同
It's nowhere near the same: 大相径庭、完全不同
比如：如果你听到"I love you",你的第一反应是？
"So sweet!"
"I love you too!"
但是，美国人的反应是：
Love是一颗炸弹！
大家记得最近节目放过一首歌"Something stupid"吗？
歌词有一句：
Then I go and spoil it all by saying something stupid like "I love you"
Why is saying "I love you" stupid? 说“我爱你”怎么会很傻呢？
Isn't it sweet? 不是很甜蜜吗？
We call it "drop the L bomb": 英语有个说法，叫扔L炸弹
Too much too soon: 压力太大、来得太快
Americans tend to be very careful when it comes to saying "I love you": 美国人对说“我爱你”特别谨慎
但是，日常生活中，美国人却常把love挂在嘴边
比如吃汉堡：
McDonald's slogan "I'm lovin' it": 麦当劳的广告语“我就喜欢”

口语里，“love”还能怎么用？
I loved that movie. It was the best! 我太喜欢那部电影了，真好看！
Did you see the show? 你看那个节目了吗？
Yes, I totally love it! 看了，太喜欢了！
How is the food? 菜好吃吗？
I love it! Just love it! 好吃！我太喜欢了！

上面这些日常情况，中文基本都会用“喜欢”表达情绪；可是英语却要用“love".
如果用“I like it", 反而容易造成误解！
Why？为什么？
"I like it" or "I like it very much" doesn't sound very sincere or enthusiastic: 我喜欢、我非常喜欢在英语里听起来反而有点不真诚、没什么热情
总之：
表达你非常喜欢一个事物，大家记得用love！

家人之间的love
"Love" is also used a lot between family members, parents and kids: love在亲人、父母、孩子之间也很常用
I don't think I've ever said "我爱你" to my parents: 我好像从来没对我父母说过“我爱你”
It feels so awkward. I don't know how to say it: 感觉很尴尬，不知怎么开口
My parents don't really say it to me either: 我爸爸妈妈好像也不会跟我说
But I say "mommy loves you" to my sons all the time: 但是，我倒常用英语跟孩子说“mommy loves you"
I don't really say it in Chinese though, feels really awkward: 但是我不太用中文跟他们说“妈妈爱你”，也觉得很尴尬
Maybe when it's not your mother tongue, it's easier to say: 有可能不是自己的母语，反而更容易说

不过有些美国人也觉得对家人说"I love you"有点儿别扭
WASPs don't say it as much: 英国血统的美国人好像没那么常说“I love you"
WASP (White Anglo Saxon Protestant): 新教徒的盎格鲁撒克逊裔美国人
They are more reserved: 他们比较含蓄
Sons don't say "I love you" as much as daughters: 还有儿子，也不像女儿那么愿意对父母说"I love you"
Girls, even grown-up girls say it all the time to their parents: 女儿，就算是成年了，也常跟父母说“I love you"

说完love, 说hate
中文“恨”是个特别强烈的字，日常很少用。
但是英语的hate口语却很常用。
基本，刚才所有用love的例子，也可以很自然地用hate。
比如：
I hated that movie. It was so bad. 那部电影太难看了，我一点儿都不喜欢。
It has been raining non-stop. I hate this weather! 天天下雨，天气太讨厌了！
Traffic is so bad. I hate it! 路真堵，烦死了！

所以，hate在口语里，更多是“讨厌”的意思，而不是恨。
To hate a person?
用在人身上呢？
Be careful with using "hate" on people: 用在人身上，要特别谨慎
You can use it jokingly with your friends: 也许跟很好的朋友，可以用调侃的语气
比如：
A: My husband is taking me on a trip to Italy! 我老公要带我去意大利玩儿
B: Oh, I hate you! 哦，我恨你！羡慕、嫉妒、恨
But in general, hate is a very strong word if you use it on people: 不过总的来说，hate用在人身上，语气是很强的

之前说到hate在口语里有“讨厌”的意思，那“真讨厌！”英语怎么说？
I hate it when you ...: 英语通常会说那个具体的行为
But it's still pretty direct and strong: 不过语气还是挺直接、强烈的
When a Chinese girl says "你真讨厌"，it's mostly being coquettish: 中国女生说“你真讨厌”，经常是在撒娇
Cutesy: 嗲、撒娇

A love hate relationship | 爱恨交织
A love hate relationship with someone or something: 又爱又恨、爱恨交加的关系
怎么用？
I have a love hate relationship with my phone: 我对手机真是又爱又恨
A love hate relationship with your work/your boss: 对于自己的工作、对于自己的老板，大概也有些爱恨交织的情绪
Many foreigners have a love hate relationship with China: 很多外国人，对中国也是爱恨交织
＊大家注意不是A love and hate relationship;
而是A love hate relationship＊

Love hate的另一个高段位用法
Love to hate: 又爱又恨、欲罢不能
Especially true with celebrities: 大众看明星，经常都有这种情绪
Kim Kardashian is someone many Americans love to hate: 比如卡戴珊，美国人就是love to hate
They hate her for being so high-profile, but they love to read news about her: 很多人讨厌她高调、作秀，但同时又特别爱看她的八卦新闻
They can't get enough of her: 欲罢不能
Is there a Chinese celebrity who people love to hate? 中国有这样的明星吗？