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-- Discuss the behavior, not your spouse's personality. This allows your partner to change. And be careful to use the word 'I' and not 'you.' (It is helpful to say: 'I get upset when you leave your underwear on the bathroom floor.' It's not beneficial to say, 'You are a slob,' even if it's true.)
-- 讨论行为，而不是伴侣的个性。这会让你的伴侣有所改变、此外，小心使用“我”而不是“你”这个字眼。（如果你说，“你总是把内裤放在洗手间地板上让我感到心烦”，就会很有帮助。反之，如果你说，“你真是邋遢得不行”，即便这是事实，也于事无补。
