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《成长的烦恼》换位思考理解万岁
【亲子关系】要去上班的妈妈麦姬 & 舍不得妈妈的小儿子本
【双语对白】
Ben: Mom, how come you had to go back to work?
Maggie: I didn't have to Ben, I wanted to. Ben, imagine you had to spend fifteen years in this house without ever going out to play. You'd go crazy, wouldn't you? (Ben nods。) Well, believe it or not, a lot grown-ups feel the same way about work。
Ben: That's sick, Mom。
Maggie: Ben, I know this has been a big change for all of us. And I worry about not being here for you because, well, you're the youngest. And I worry about not being here for Carol because she's a girl and she needs her mother. And I worry about not being here for Mike to keep him from accidentally blowing something up. And believe me I worry about leaving your father here to cope with all you monsters。
Ben: You shouldn't worry so much ,mom, you'll make yourself crazy。
本：妈妈，为啥你非要去上班呢？
麦姬：不是我非要去，本，我想去来着。本，想想看如果你在这房子里呆了15年一点儿都不能出去玩儿，你会抓狂的，是不是？信不信由你，有很多大人对于上班这事儿的感受也一样。
本：这还真是有病咧，妈妈。
麦姬：本，我知道对我们来说这都是一个巨大的转变。不能陪着你我也很担心，因为，你是最小的嘛；不能陪着卡萝儿我也担心，因为她是个女孩儿，总需要妈妈；当然我也担心不陪着迈克的时候他一不小心炸了什么东西。我也愁让你爸来收拾你们这些个小恶魔。
本：你不该这么愁的，妈妈，你会把自己给逼疯的。
【教育法则】六岁的本当然不理解妈妈为啥非要去上班不可，为啥不能在家陪着他。聪明的麦姬动之以情，晓之以理，用本比较熟悉的情境和他解释，很快聪敏懂事的小本就会反过来体谅母亲了。换位思考从来就是沟通的绝妙方式。
