Liu Na, 18, a freshman at Shenzhen University, echoed those sentiments by saying that she prefers going Dutch as a way to show each other respect.

深圳大学18岁的新生刘娜（音译）也持有同样的观点，她更倾向于AA制，这样可以表示对互相的尊敬。

“The nature of a relationship is sharing not taking,” said Liu. “Plus, I don’t want to feel as though I am relying on my boyfriend financially.”

“爱情的本质是分享不是索取，另外我不想让人觉得我是在被男朋友养着。”

However, male students find it hard to accept the dawning reality of financial co-existence. Wei Xu believes that it would hurt his pride to ask a girl to share the cost. “I just don’t know how to open my mouth to raise the subject,” Wei said.

然而，逐渐兴起的经济独立并不容易被男生接受。魏叙认为请求女孩分担花销是伤自尊的事。他说：“我都不知道该如何开口提出这个要求。“

Girls, however, prefer setting ground rules regarding such matters so as to rule out any possible misunderstandings.

而女孩更喜欢先定好基本原则，以防出现可能的误解。

“It’s better to get things straight before dating, so that neither part feels undue pressure on the matter of money, which could be a sensitive subject in a relationship,” said Qin Xiaolan, a 19-year-old freshman at Wuhan University.

“在约会前最好先把事说清楚，这样双方都不会在钱的问题上感到过分的压力，这在双方相处中是个敏感问题。”武汉大学19岁的新生秦小兰（音译）说。

Some, however, balance things differently. Ma Shunyang, 20, a sophomore student at Guangdong Foreign Studies University, always gives some money to her boyfriend before going out for a dinner or a movie.“It is understandable for my boyfriend to be the one in charge in front of others,” said Ma.

当然有些人也有不同的处理方式。广东外语外贸大学20岁的二年级生马顺阳（音译）在吃饭或者看电影前总是先给他男朋友钱。她说：“我能理解我的男朋友在其他人面前愿意表现出占主导的姿态。”

Ma also thinks that having expensive dinners or going to expensive movies doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship. “The key is how much thought is put into the relationship, not how much money,” said Ma.

她还认为吃饭看电影花大价钱并不能保证幸福的爱情。她认为：“问题的关键在于投入了多少感情，而不是多少钱。”