1. Expect nothing.
不要期待任何

If you expect your cousin to understand your bipolar disorder, then you are going to be disappointed when your cousin doesn't understand your bipolar disorder. But if you sit down to lunch with her fully expecting her to space out on 90 percent of the conversation, you won't walk away from the table bummed out that she didn't inquire about your manic cycle. Or know that it doesn't have anything to do with a washing machine. I think Sylvia Plath was referring to idiots when she said, “If you expect nothing from anybody, you're never disappointed.” That goes for parents, in-laws, siblings, pets, spouses, children, and ministers.
如果你期待你的表兄妹理解你有两极性格混乱，那么你会失望的，他们根本就不这混乱。但是假如你坐着吃完午饭时候她期望她能控制90%的对话，那么你将不会为她没有问问你的躁狂周期而沮丧的离开。或者知道这与洗衣机没有关系的。我觉得Sylvia Plath说这句“如果你不从任何人期望任何东西，那么你就从不会失望。”的时候，她是在说傻瓜。这句话对于父母，亲戚，兄弟姐妹，宠物，配偶，孩子和佣人，都是一样的。