In feudal society,a marriage would be decided not by a young couple's love, but by their parents' desires. Only after o matchmaker's introduction and when parents considered the two family conditions were similar and could be matched，would the marriage procedures go forward. Conditions that should be taken into consideration included wealth and social status. If a boy’s family was well-off or an official family,his parents would never permit him to marry a girl from a poor family. Essential to the marriage process were the commonly recognized "three Letters and six etiquettes". The three letters were the betrothal letter,the gift letter with a gifts list and the wedding letter used on the day the bridegroom met his bride at her home. Six etiquettes then led to the final wedding ceremony.