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Indecisiveness can drive a lot of people crazy during relationships. Being hesitant or unable to make a resolute offering about where to go to dinner, what movie to watch, or even where to go puts a strain on even the most enamored of lovers.
在谈恋爱的时候，优柔寡断往往会把许多人逼疯。犹豫不决或者不能做出决定去哪儿吃饭，看什么电影，甚至不知道去哪儿，这会让那些热恋的人们都感到很紧张。
You might find yourself completely in love with your man but flustered too. You ask yourself: Why hasn’t he proposed to me yet? Turns out, his indecision about marriage might be worse for you and your relationship than originally planned.
你或许发现自己完全爱上了一个男人，但是也很慌张无措。你问自己：为什么他还不向我求婚？事实证明，他的优柔寡断或许会对你和你们的关系造成更坏的影响，比之前预计的还要糟糕。
Everything else is good
其他一切都好
Looking at what makes a decent relationship – communication, laughter, selflessness, and compassion – you might have all the boxes checked off. You two can practically talk about anything, except for marriage, and he is willing to listen and offer constructive ideas.
看一下如何体面的相处——沟通，欢笑，忘我，以及同情——你可以按照这几点，自查一下你们的关系。你们双方实际上可以谈论任何事情，除了婚姻，他愿意听你的想法，或者给出建设性的意见。
You laugh together, and when apart you laugh at memories. The two of you would rather spend the day together in PJs in front of Netflix, having a personal pizza party, than “date.” You are living a quasi-married life.
你们一起欢笑，而且当你们分开的时候，你会一边回忆一边笑。你们两个也习惯于穿着睡衣看网飞公司的电影，开一个私人的披萨派对，而不是“约会”。你们过着类似婚后的生活。
So why is the proposal still just an idea? Does he dodge the question when you ask him about marriage-related topics? How does he react? Is it passive-aggressive?
那么为什么求婚还一直只是个想法呢？当你问他婚姻相关的话题的时候，他会逃避问题吗？他的反应如何？反应很消极吗？
Get to the root of the problem
找到问题的根源
Because something is wrong. Not deciding on anything might be a common practice of his out of fear of conflict with you. Yes, disagreeing with the person you love can be a totally horrific experience, especially when it results in a drawn-out altercation.
因为出了问题。对任何事情都不做出决定，通常或许是因为他害怕与你对立。是的，不同意你所爱之人的想法可能是非常恐怖的事情，尤其是当不同意引发长期的争执。
When it comes to the passive-aggressive individual, the inability or even the selfish need to protect themselves from potential rejection on any level becomes a safety blanket. No concrete answers or situations means that neither negatives nor positives can happen.
当提到消极攻击性的恶人的时候，无能甚至自私需要保护他们自己免受潜在的任何形式的拒绝，这成了他们的保护毯。没有具体的答案或者情况，意味着消极或者积极的结果都不会发生。
