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How do you define love? Well, this is probably the most difficult question to answer. While every person has their own perception of it, the fact cannot be denied that it's a territory that's full of ambiguity. You may think you are head over heels in love with someone but are you really? What if this strong feeling of connect purely emerges from emotional dependency? Well, at times, it gets rather difficult to see the difference between the two. But, just because you can't see it doesn't mean it does not exist.
你对爱情的定义是什么？也许这是最难回答的问题吧。虽然每个人对爱情都有自己的见解，但毫无疑问，爱情是模糊不定的领域。也许你觉得自己正深陷情网，但情况真是如此吗？如果这种与他人联络的强烈情感只是源于情感依恋，那又如何呢？有时候，判别你们之间究竟是爱情还是依恋真的很难。但，看不见的并不意味着不存在。
If you too are in a relationship that reeks of emotional dependency, then you better get up and smell the coffee. Ladies, you shouldn't make life-impacting decisions based on temporary feelings. Now, we understand that it's not easy to see--but there are signs and you should not ignore them. Here are a few:
如果你的恋情也是情感依赖，那你最好赶紧清醒清醒。妹子们，你们可不能基于暂时的感情做出影响一生的决定啊。现在，我们知道判定是不是情感依赖并非易事--但有些迹象却会显现出来，而你千万不该忽视这些迹象，比如：
You Don't Let Him Spend Time With Anyone Else
你不让他和别人在一起
There's no denying that you absolutely love spending time with your partner, but that doesn't mean you have a copyright over him. You both are free individuals who are allowed to divide their time accordingly. But, if you get extremely jealous when you see him spending time with his friends or family it means you just cannot stand the idea of him investing his energy elsewhere. And that's not healthy. Also, this is not love but a case of acute emotional dependency.
不可否认，你很喜欢和另一半在一起，但这并不意味着你可以完完全全的拥有他。你们都是自由的个体，有权利分配自己的时间。但如果他和朋友或家人在一起时你会变得特别嫉妒，那这就意味着你不能容忍他把精力花在别处。这是不健康的想法。此外，这也不是爱情，只是极度的情感依赖。
You Have Changed Yourself For Him
你为他改变了自己
Earlier you used to hate sports, but now you have turned into a gym rat because your partner loves working out. Now, if it is making you happy then it's great. However, if you hate spending time in the gym but you do it anyway to please your partner then it's a red sign. You don't really need to change who you are for the sake of your partner--especially if it's making you unhappy. And if the only reason you are doing this is to win the approval of your partner then it's really not worth it.
以前，你很讨厌运动，但现在你却因为另一半喜欢锻炼而变成了健身狂人。如果这种转变让你很开心，那最好不过。但如果你不喜欢呆在健身房，只是为了取悦另一半才不得已而为之，那这就是危险信号了。你真的不用为了另一半而改变自己--尤其是让你感到不悦的改变。如果你改变自己只是为了获得另一半的认可，那这真的完全不值得。
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