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分手后老想着复合怎么办？先想清楚这个问题

Why Did You Break Up And Is It Still A Problem?

你还没明白为何分手?

You need to be really honest about all the reasons you broke up and whether they're things that have actually been fixed.

你必须坦诚地面对分手的原因，想明白那些导致分手的问题是否已经得到解决。

"According to the well-known couples researcher Dr. John Gottman, 69 percent of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems - and ALL couples have them," Pella Weisman, Dating Coach and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, tells Bustle.

情感专家兼婚姻家庭认证治疗师佩拉•威斯曼告诉Bustle网站：“根据著名研究员约翰•格特曼关于情侣关系的研究，69%的感情矛盾会一直存在——并且所有的情侣都会有。

"It's inevitable that there are ongoing issues in any relationship, and this is OK, as long as they are things you can live with.

在任何关系中，矛盾都是不可避免的，这没什么，只要你能接受。

If the issues are problematic, be honest with yourself about this. Even better, get an outside perspective from someone you trust." It may be that the issues are just too big to make it work.

但是如果矛盾太深，你必须正视它。能够听取一个值得信任的局外人的看法就更好了。”或许，矛盾本身就很严重以至于你们根本解决不了。

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