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Break ups are hard. Whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's a very difficult thing to deal with.
分手是个难事。不论你是甩人的还是被甩的，这都是件难以应对的事情。
It might feel like you'll never make it out of the heart-shattering sadness. But you will.
似乎感觉自己永远都走不出心碎的阴影。但你可以的。
Here are 5 things you can do to help put yourself back together after a break up.
以下是能够帮助你分手后振作起来的5件事。
No.1: experience it.
1. 感受它。
The only way to really get over a break up is to deal with it. Don't distract yourself. Let yourself feel the emotions, one at a time.
从分手中恢复的唯一方法是应对它。不要转移注意力。让你自己感受这种情感。
There will be good times, and there will be bad, but the most important thing is to give yourself time.
会有欢乐时刻也会有痛苦时分，但最重要的是给自己时间。
If you feel like crying, cry. Crying has a bad reputation but it's extremely therapeutic.
如果想哭就哭吧。虽然有点点丢脸但是非常治愈。
Crying isn't losing control, it's gaining it back through owning your emotions.
哭泣不是失控而是通过承认自己的情绪来找回控制权。
No.2: focus on yourself.
2. 专注自己。
After being the second half of a couple for a while, we tend to forget what it feels like to be on our own again.
和另一半呆一起太久，就会忘记自己一个人时的感觉。
Be your own person. Do whatever you feel like doing.
做自己。做自己喜欢的事。
Try thinking about you and only you for a little bit to regain that awesome sense of independence that you lost while being someone's significant other.
试着想想自己，只想着自己来找回恋爱时所遗弃的独立感。
This can be done in a number of ways. Treat yourself to something nice, like a delicious dinner or a day out and about.
很多方式能够帮助做到。给自己买好的东西，比如美食或度假一天。
Maybe take the time to reevaluate your health goals, or even set personal goals for yourself.
或者捉住时机重新评估自己的健康目标甚至为自己制定个人计划。
Indulge a little. Buy yourself a nice outfit or something you've had your eye on.
沉浸在小遐想之中。给自己买漂亮衣服或是你喜欢的东西。
Get your favorite food or a bottle of wine and enjoy it with, or without friends. Take time to remind yourself of who you are.
吃自己喜欢的食物或一瓶酒，独自享受。花些时间提醒自己你是谁。
No.3: try new things.
3. 尝试新事物。
Have you always wanted to take guitar lessons? Take a yoga class? Finally read that book you bought three years ago. Well, now you have the time.
你是不是一直想学吉他？瑜伽？阅读三年前买的书。好了，现在时间是你的啦。
Find a new hobby or take a class you've been wanting to take. You'll get out more, meet new people and, most importantly, get that pesky ex off your mind.
找到新的爱好或是报喜欢的班。你或收获更多，认识新的朋友，最重要的是，将讨厌的前任从心里赶出去。
No.4: reach out to family and friends.
4. 联系家人和朋友。
Friends and family are around for a reason. You know all those times you've had to console your loved ones when they've been in a rough place?
朋友和家人总在左右。当爱的人陷入困境，你也曾安慰他们。
Now it's time for payback. True friends are people who love and support you, no matter what.
现在是时候回报了。真正的朋友是那些不论怎样都爱着你支持你的人。
You deserve their time and attention and shouldn't be afraid to reach out and ask for it.
你值得他们花时间关注你，不要害怕联系他们。
Spend weekends reconnecting with your parents, grandparents, and siblings.
花上几个星期和父母、祖父母以及兄弟姐妹联系。
Too often, we take family for granted, so this a great chance to sneak in some home cooked meals and show your family that you care.
我们经常将家人的关爱视为理所当然，所以这正是溜进厨房为你关爱的家人做饭的好时机。
Not only that, consider volunteering to help others. This also lets you go out and meet new people.
不仅是这样，考虑自愿帮助他人也不错。这也能让你走出门接触新的朋友。
You'll make new friends, and, possibly, a new love interest.
你会结交新朋友，或者有可能找到新爱情。
No.5: move on.
5. 向前进。
It's not uncommon for two people to break up and want to remain friends, but the most important thing you can do is distance yourself from that person.
分手后做朋友很常见，但你所能做的最重要的便是远离那个人。
If that means taking a month-long vacation to New Mexico, so be it. Don't text, call, or email them. What you both need at this point is space.
如果这意味着要花上一个月去新墨西哥州度假，那就去度假吧。不要发短信、打电话或是发邮件联系他们。你们两所需要的是空间。
Break ups create emotional wounds, and if you are in constant contact with your ex, you will never give yourself the time you need to heal.
分手会造成情感创伤，并且如果你一直和前任联系，你就永远没有时间愈合自己。
After the healing process, go out and meet new people. There's some truth to the old adage: the best way to get over someone is to get under someone.
在治愈过程之后，出去认识新朋友。老话讲：忘记某个人最好的方法，就是喜欢上其他人。
Join Tinder, or some other dating and go out. You're sure to meet someone new, someone you can connect to on a deeper level.
加入Tinder或是其他聊天软件。你会认识新的朋友，那个能够让你们深入相连的人。
Break ups are difficult, but they aren't the end of the world. In fact, they're the start of something new and better.
分手很困难，但是这并不是世界末日。事实上，分手是新的更好的开始
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