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We all love succeeding and wish to live rich happy lives but it seems that at almost every corner,
我们都爱成功，都想过快乐富裕的生活，但好像几乎在每个角落
there's always someone trying to pull us down or make us feel bad.
总会有人想要把我们拉下来或者让我们感觉不好。
Every time we think we're just about to make it, a brick wall drops in the way and we can't seem to break through it.
每一次我们觉得自己就要成功时，就会有一块砖头挡住了去路，我们似乎无法打破它。
Life must just be so unfair to us or is it? What if we were to embrace the concept for a moment
生活就是对我们这么不公平，是不是？如果我们接受这样一个概念—
that we are the ones who are getting in our own way of reaching our goals?
我们就是那个阻止我们到达目标的人，会怎样呢？
The truth is you have so much more power over your life than you maybe giving yourself credit for.
事实是你对自己的生活拥有的权力比你认为的要多得多。
If you don't think so, you might want to consider these ten signs you're subconsciously sabotaging yourself.
如果你不这么认为，那么你或许该思考一下你在潜意识里阻碍自己的10个迹象。
1. You struggle with impostor syndrome.
1. 你患有骗子综合症。
In 1978, psychologist Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes identified the behavioral pattern
1978年，心理学家Pauline Rose Clance和Suzanne Imes确定了一种行为模式—
of believing that one has only stumbled into success and hasn't actually earned any of their achievements as impostor syndrome.
认为自己的成功只是偶然，实际上自己并没有获得任何成就，这就是骗子综合症。
Do you often feel that even though you got a perfect score in your test, got hired for the job you applied for
你是否经常觉得，即便自己在考试中得高分，申请的工作被录用
or achieved any other goal you had set your mind to, it was just due to random luck and not actually because you deserved it.
或是实现了自己定下的目标，这些也都是因为运气，自己并不值得这些。
We all occasionally accomplished things without trying very hard but this is rare.
我们偶尔会不费吹灰之力就完成一些事情，这些种情况很少发生。
If you constantly think you're just getting lucky, you might be suffering from impostor syndrome.
如果你总觉得你只是很幸运的话，你或许患有骗子综合症。
2. You're overly self-critical.
2. 过度自我批评。
Are you always putting yourself down?
你是否总是贬低自己？
Do you constantly focus on your flaws and issues rather than what you're proud of?
你总关注自己的缺点和问题而不是那些让你为之骄傲的事情？
We all have what's called the negative bias, which is meant to protect us from causing or experiencing future mishaps
我们都有消极偏向，它本应该保护我们不受未来灾难的影响
but more times than not this backfires and just makes us feel bad about ourselves for unnecessary and or illogical reasons.
但更多时候，这只会适得其反，只会让我们因为不必要或不合逻辑的原因而感到自己很差劲。
Being humble is virtuous but constantly being negative and feeling sorry for yourself will only hold you back.
谦虚是美德，但持续的消极和自怨自艾只会让你停滞不前。
3. You procrastinate.
3. 拖延。
According to the dictionary, procrastination is the act or habit of delaying
根据字典，这个词的解释是拖延的行为或习惯
or putting off something that usually requires attention.
或拖延一些通常需要注意力的事情。
All of us have goals and finish lines we want to make, whether it be having a career of
我们都有想要完成的目标和终点线，不管是成为
being a famous movie star or winning a video game tournament.
著名影星或是赢得电子游戏锦标赛。
But why is it we distract ourselves from making our dreams become realities.
但为什么我们会分散自己的注意力，使我们的梦想无法成为现实？
In almost every case, this is because of fear.
在几乎所有情况中，这是因为恐惧。
We're afraid of failing and would rather not suffer the embarrassment,
我们害怕失败，宁愿不经历尴尬
disappointment or any pain whatsoever that would come with it.
失望或因此而来的任何伤痛。
Sure, it might be a little easier to just binge watch a show or go scrolling on social media during your free time
没错，闲暇时追剧刷屏当然更加容易些
but this probably isn't going to help achieve your dreams.
但这可不能帮助你实现自己的梦想。
4. You compare yourself to others.
4. 拿自己和别人比较。
You got a B+ on your quiz but your classmate Jorge got an A.
你考试得了B+，但你的同学豪尔赫得了A。
Your friend Stacey got complimented for her outfit but you didn't.
你的朋友被夸衣服好看，但你没有。
What's odd is that you probably felt fine until you made either of those comparisons.
奇怪的是，进行比较前，你可能自我感觉还不错。
Why is it that we spend so much time focusing on what others have rather than what we have.
为什么我们要花那么多时间关注别人有而我们没有的呢？
This concept was first officially analyzed by social psychologists Leon Festinger in 1954.
1954年，社会心理学家利昂·费斯廷格首次正式分析了这个概念。
Essentially he concluded that we compare in order to both reduce our uncertainty and help define ourselves
他总结得出我们比较是为了减少自己的不确定性并帮助定义我们自己
but unfortunately comparing isn't the best way to help motivate us.
但不幸的是，比较并不是激励自己的最好方式。
In fact, most of the time it just makes us feel like we're not good enough
事实上，大多数时候，这只会让我们觉得自己不够好
and the more we do it, the more we feel we never will be.
我们越这样做，就越觉得自己永远不会成功。
5. Your life is disorganized.
5. 你的生活杂乱无章。
Does everything always feel really overwhelming and out of control?
是不是每件事都让人感到难以承受和失控？
We all go through times of complication but if one attribute of your life is in disarray and not taken care of
我们都经历过复杂的时期，但如果你的生活中有一个属性是混乱的并没有处理
it will seep into more aspects of your life and thus could lead to even more procrastination.
它将潜进你生活的更多方面，可能会导致更多的拖延。
This is a sign that you need to start prioritizing your time, cleaning up the clutter and putting everything where it belongs.
这是一个迹象，表明你需要开始优先安排你的时间，清理杂物，把所有的东西放到它该放的地方。
