Therefore, friend's position is important in Chinese's mind. The purpose that Chinese don't go Dutch is doesn't want to destroy the friendship between the friends. Dutch treatment is the stingy behavior in China, is unfavorable to the friends' solidarity and is unfavorable to keeping the harmonious interpersonal relationship。
因此,在中国人的头脑中把朋友放在很重要的位置。中国人不采用各自付账的方式不会损害朋友间的友谊。相反,各付己账被认为是小气的行为,这不利于朋友的团结,也不利于保持和谐的人际关系。
Third, it is only simple “Have a meal!” that Occidental entertain guests. It is not purpose that Chinese entertain guests, but it is the means. In Americans' idea, “Have a meal” definition is to add fuel to the body for keeping health and normal life activity. Thus resist the attack of disease. That is to say, there is no any additional value。
第三,西方人接待客人“吃饭”很简单,不像中国人接待客人那样带有意图。在美国人的心目中,“吃饭”无非就是给身体增加营养,保持身体健康和维持正常的生理活动,以抵御疾病的侵扰。换句话说,这里面根本没有任何附加的价值。