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Have you ever wondered what it is that makes you attractive to other people?
你有没有想过是什么让你变得有吸引力？
Do you work very hard on how your skin looks, or the type of haircut you get, or how genuine and contagious your smile is?
你有没有很在意你的皮肤，你的发型，或者你的微笑是否真诚和具有感染力？
Do you tend to overlook personality improvements because of the non-tangible results that it might give?
你是否轻视人格方面的改善，因为它带来的结果你也看不见？
Today, we want to remind you that behavioral improvements have as much, or even more, impact than physical improvements.
今天，我们想提醒大家，行为上的改善和身体上的改善一样，甚至效果更佳。
To help you feel more confident, here are six signs you have an attractive personality.
为了让你更加自信，以下是你具有魅力人格的6种迹象。
ONE. You have great conversational skills.
第一，你有很好的谈话技巧。
Are you approachable, well-spoken, open-minded, and authentic, and honest?
你平易近人吗？你口才好吗？你思想开放吗？你真实诚恳吗？
These are all signs that you are a great communicator, and it's a good personality trait to have.
这些迹象都表明你是一个很好的沟通者，善于沟通是一个很好的性格特征。
Even if you are more of an introvert than an extrovert, having great conversational skills is still capable for you.
即便你的性格偏内向，你还是可以拥有良好的沟通技巧。
As an introvert, you can still listen attentively and ask engaging questions and maybe act more so quietly approachable in your own way.
作为一个内向的人，你仍可以用心倾听，问一些有吸引力的问题，或者以自己的方式表现得更加温婉可亲。
Authenticity and honesty are also important in being a good conversationalist.
真诚和诚实也是成为一个好的谈话者的重要因素。
This helps people to trust you and want to engage with you for how steadfast and true you are and how well you listen to them.
因为你坚定、真诚、善于倾听，所以这有助于增加人们对你的信任，并愿意与你交往。
TWO. You have a positive attitude.
第二，你有积极的态度。
Would you describe yourself as a positive person?
你觉得自己是一个积极向上的人吗？
If you are someone who has a generally positive attitude, then your personality is much more attractive than someone who would rather just complain and pout all the time.
如果你是一个态度积极的人，那么你的个性比那些只会抱怨和撅嘴的人更有吸引力。
It's generally well known that optimistic people are more physically and mentally healthy, and have more professional success than those with more negative outlooks.
大家都知道，乐观的人在身体和心理上会比那些悲观的人更健康，在事业上也更成功。
People will generally feel more attracted to you if you show them more positive emotions such as love, kindness, happiness.
如果你表现出了更多积极的情绪，比如爱、善良、幸福，人们通常会更容易被你吸引。
THREE. You are confident.
第三，你很自信。
Have you ever felt attracted to someone's sense of confidence and self-assuredness, even more than their looks?
你有没有被某人的自信吸引过，甚至超过了他们的外表对你的吸引？
Confidence is considered to be one of the most attractive personality traits.
自信是最有吸引力的个性特征之一。
Your confidence can be used as an asset that shows how passionate and invested you are in things that are important to you.
你的自信可以作为一种资产，能够显示出你对重要的事情有多么的热情和投入。
Confidence is attractive because it shows that you believe in yourself and that you have a high level of self-esteem.
自信之所以魅力无限，是因为你自信就表明你相信自己，你有高度的自尊。
FOUR. You are a great listener.
第四，你是一个伟大的倾听者。
When you have great listening skills, this will make your personality more appealing and attractive.
当你有很好的倾听技巧时，会使你的个性更有吸引力。
When you are actively listening to what others have to say, this shows them that you care about them and that what they say is important to you.
当你积极地倾听别人的话时，这表明你关心他们，他们说的话对你来说很重要。
For example, if someone tells you a really important story, and you give them a general and non-committal response, then you are giving them the impression that you don't really want to listen to them, and only want to talk about yourself.
例如，如果有人告诉你一个非常重要的故事，而你给了他们一个笼统的、不确定的回答，那么你就会给他们留下这样的印象：你并不想听他们说话，你只想谈论你自己。
FIVE. You have a good sense of humour.
第五，你很幽默。
Are you witty and humorous? Do you enjoy making others laugh?
你机智幽默吗？你擅于逗别人笑吗？
If you can make others laugh freely, take that as a compliment!
如果你能让别人开怀大笑，那就把它当作一种称赞吧！
Making people laugh can be hard because everyone has different senses of humour.
让人发笑可能很难，因为每个人的幽默感都不一样。
But if you have the talent and skill to make people laugh that is extremely valuable and makes your personality that much more attractive.
但如果你有让人们笑的天赋和技能，这是非常具有价值的，这会使你的个性更有吸引力。
When you have a quick wit, you are using both your cognitive and emotional processes to come up with your jokes, so you're also generally more intelligent.
当你机智敏捷时，你是在利用你的认知和情感过程来想出你的笑话，所以通常这也表明你很聪明。
SIX. You're open to trying new experiences.
第六，你乐于尝试新的体验。
Are you willing to try out new experiences? Do you take more risks?
你愿意尝试新的体验吗？你愿意冒更大的风险吗？
According to Adrian Furnham from Psychology Today, having an inclination to explore opportunities is one of the traits that people look for in a partner.
《今日心理学》的艾德里安·弗恩海姆表示，擅于寻求机会的人格特征是人们寻找伴侣的特征之一。
Your willingness to try new things shows others that your personality is flexible and open, making it a lot more attractive than someone who happens to be more closed off.
你愿意尝试新鲜事物，这表明你的个性是灵活的、开放的，这会使你比那些比较封闭的人更有吸引力。
So, if you are willing to engage in new experiences, then you have two of the most attractive personality traits: flexibility and openness.
所以，如果你愿意参与新的体验，那么你就有两个最吸引人的个性特征：灵活和开放。
The most attractive personality you can have is the one in which you are most true to yourself.
你所拥有的最具吸引力的个性就是“做最真实的自己”。
