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如何将冒充者综合症转化为你的优势

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So I've experienced a lot of success in my life.

我人生中经历过许多成功。
Over a decade ago, I started a business straight out of uni with my mate, Scott.
十多年前,我和我的同伴史考特一起在大学毕业后直接创了业。
Now, having no prior business experience and not really any grand plan
没有任何商业经验也没有什么宏伟蓝图,
in fact, our goals when we started were not to have to get a real job
事实上,当时我们创业时的目标是不用找一份真正的工作,
and to not have to wear a suit to work every day. Check and check.
以及不用每天穿着西装上班。两个目标都达成了。
Today, we have thousands of amazing employees, and millions of people use our software around the planet.
今天,我们有上千名优秀的员工,以及全球有上百万人在使用我们的软件。
And technically, even outside the planet, if you count those that are currently on their way to Mars.
严格上说,甚至在我们地球外,如果正前往火星的那些人也算。
So you'd think that I know what I'm doing every day when I go to work.
你可能会觉得我知道自己每天去上班的时候都知道自己在干嘛。
Well, let me let you in on something: most days, I still feel like I often don't know what I'm doing.
好吧,让我告诉你些事情:大多数时候,我仍然感觉不知道自己在干嘛。
I've felt that way for 15 years, and I've since learned that feeling is called "impostor syndrome."
我已经这么觉得15年了,后来我知道这样的感觉被叫做“冒充者综合症”。
Have you ever felt out of your depth, like a fraud, and just kind of guessed/bullshitted your way through the situation
你是否曾在内心深处觉得自己像个骗子,就那种你通过坑蒙拐骗的方式披襟斩将,获取成就,
petrified that anytime, someone was going to call you on it?
时刻都在恐慌,就担心有人要揭穿你?
Well, I can think of many examples where I felt like this.
我可以回想到很多自己有这般感觉的例子。
Interviewing our first HR manager, having never worked in a company that had an HR department
在面试我们的第一位人力资源经理时,我却从来没有在一家有着人力资源部门的公司工作过,
terrified as I walked into the interview, thinking, "What am I going to ask this person?"
当我走去面试房间时,我紧张得要命,心想,“我要问这人什么问题?”
Or attending board meetings in a T-shirt surrounded by suits, and acronyms are flying around,
或是穿着T恤衫参加董事会议,被一群西装人包围着,他们满口都是首字母缩略词,
feeling like a five-year-old as I surreptitiously write them down in my notebook,
感觉自己就是个5岁的小孩偷偷在笔记本上记下那些词汇,
so I can look them up on Wikipedia when I get home later.
等我回家后可以马上到维基百科上查。
Or, in the early days, when people would call up and ask for accounts payable,
或者,早些时候,当人们给我电话追讨应付帐款时,
I would freeze and think, "Wait, are they asking for money or giving it to us?"
我会整个人怔住并想:“等等,他们是在要钱,还是想给我们钱?”
And I would cover the phone, cover the mouthpiece of the phone, and say, "Scott, you're in accounts," and pass it across.
之后我会捂住电话,捂住电话的话筒,并说:“史考特,你的账目电话。”之后把电话转接给他。
We both did a lot of jobs back then.
那时我俩都做了很多工作。
So for me, impostor syndrome is a feeling of being well, well out of your depth, yet already entrenched in the situation.
所以对我来说,冒充者综合症是当你面对力所不能及的情况,却无法脱身时的一种感受。
Internally, you know you're not skilled enough, experienced enough or qualified enough to justify being there,
内心中,你知道自己没有足够的技能和经验,或是没有足够的资格来解释你所在的高度,
yet you are there, and you have to figure a way out, because you can't just get out.
但是你就在那里,并且你需要想办法解决这个情况,因为你无法甩手不干。
It's not a fear of failure, and it's not a fear of being unable to do it.
这不是对于失败的恐惧,这也不是对于自己能力不足的恐惧。
It's more a sensation of getting away with something, a fear of being discovered,
这更像是一种想要逃离某件事的感觉,一种害怕被发现的恐惧,
that at any time, someone is going to figure this out.
担心在任何时候,有人会发现你的真面目。
And if they did figure it out, you'd honestly think, "Well, that's fair enough, actually."
而且如果他们确实发现了,你会诚实地想:“好吧,这实际没什么毛病。”
One of my favorite writers, Neil Gaiman, put it so beautifully in a commencement address he gave at a university, called "Make Good Art."
尼尔·盖曼,我最喜欢的作家之一,在一个大学毕业典礼致辞中把这现象非常美好地描述为“创造卓越的艺术”。
I want to make sure I get his quote correct.
我想要确保我的引用准确无误。
"I was convinced that there would be a knock on the door, and a man with a clipboard would be there to tell me that it was all over,
“我深信,有一天,有人会敲开我家的门,一个手拿写字夹板的男人将会站在门外,告诉我一切都结束了,
that they'd caught up with me, and that I would now have to go and get a real job."
他们必须将我抓捕归案,我将必须离开,去找份正儿八经的工作。”
Now, when there's a knock on my door,
现在,当有人敲我门,
I still feel like some sort of dark-suited clipboard man is going to be there to tell me that my time is kind of up.
我仍然会有那种身穿黑色西装、携带写字夹板的人要出现在门口的感觉,告诉我:我的时间到了。
And being a crap cook, I'm quite relieved when it's just someone with a pizza for the kids.
我不擅长做饭,门外的人若是来外送披萨给孩子,我会大舒一口气。
But it's important to note that it's not all bad. There's a lot of goodness, I think, in those feelings.
但重要的是是要知道,那些感觉并非都是不好的。其实我觉得,当中也有很多好处。
And this isn't some sort of motivational-poster type talk, a "Begin it now."
这并非是励志标语式的演讲以及“现在就开始”的那种口号。
It's more of an introspection into my own experiences of impostor syndrome,
这更像是对我自身冒充者综合症经历的自省,
and how I've tried to learn to harness them and turn them into some sort of a force for good.
以及我是如何学会掌控它并将其转化为一种永恒的力量。
And a great example of those experiences is in the early days of Atlassian's history.
这些经历中一个很好的例子就是在我们公司Atlassian创建初期。
We were about four years old, and we had about 70 employees.
公司仅成立了4年,大概有70位员工。
And at the advice of our auditors -- most good stories start with advice from an auditor
在我们审计师的建议下--大多好故事都是源于审计师建议,
we entered the New South Wales Entrepreneur of the Year competition.
我们参加了新南威尔士州年度企业家竞赛。
Now, we were surprised when we won the New South Wales Entrepreneur of the Year in the young category for entrepreneurs under 40.
当我们得知自己在40岁以下创业家组别中获胜时,我们非常惊讶意外。
There were eight categories.
总共有8个组别。
And so surprised, in fact, having looked at the list of people we were up against, I didn't even turn up to the awards ceremony.
真的非常惊讶,真的,在看了我们竞争对手的名单后,我甚至都没有出现在颁奖典礼上。
So Scott collected the gong by himself. And then we traveled off to the national awards.
所以史考特只能自己去领奖。之后我们一起去了全国奖的颁奖典礼。
I thought I should probably turn up to those. So we rented some suits, I invited a girl that I had just met
我想我可能应该去参加一下那些颁奖典礼。于是我们租了几套西服,我邀请了一个刚遇上的女孩,
we'll get to her in a second and off we went to the big black-tie gala.
我们一会儿会说到她,我们一起前往了正式礼服的晚宴。
Now, our surprise turned to shock in the first award of the night, the young category,
当晚我们还沉浸在摘取比赛年轻组别第一名的惊喜中时,惊喜便转变为震惊,
when we beat all of the other states and won the Australian Young Entrepreneur of the Year.
当我们得知自己打败了所有来自其余州的创业家,并且赢得了澳大利亚年度青年企业家的奖项。
When the shock had worn off, we got a lot of champagne to the table and the party began, and the night was surely over.
当震惊褪去,我们准备了满桌子的香槟,庆祝派对开始,于是这晚就这么过去了。
We were having a royally great time. Fast-forward to the last award of the night,
我们度过了美好的时光。快进到那晚的最后一个奖项,
and our shock turned into everybody's shock when we won the Australian Entrepreneur of the Year against all of the other categories.
我们的震惊变成了在场每一个人的震惊,因为我们击败所有其余组别,赢得了澳大利亚年度企业家的奖项。
Now, so shocked was everybody else, in fact, that the announcer, the CEO of Ernst and Young,
别人也都很惊讶,包括奖项发布人安永的首席执行官,
opened the envelope, and the first words out of his mouth were, "Oh my God."
打开信封,从他嘴里冒出来的第一句话是“我的天呐。”
And then he reset himself and announced that we had won.
之后他重新调整了状态,宣布我们赢得了奖项。
So we knew we were in way too deep. And from there, the water got a lot deeper,
所以我们知道我们已经过火了。尤其从获得国内最高奖项开始,这一切变得一发不可收拾,
because we jetted off to Monte Carlo to represent Australia in the World Entrepreneur of the Year against 40 other different countries.
因为我们飞往蒙特卡洛代表澳大利亚,参加世界年度企业家的比赛,与其他40个国家的团队比拼。
Now, in another rented suit, I was at one of the dinners and sitting next to a lovely man called Belmiro de Azevedo,
有天,我在一个晚宴上穿着另一套租来的西服,坐在一个可爱的名叫贝尔米罗·德·阿泽维多的男人边上,
who was the winner from Portugal. Total champion. At 65, he had been running his business for 40 years.
他是来自葡萄牙的获奖者。比赛总冠军。他65岁,已经从商40年了。
He had 30,000 employees. Don't forget, at the time, we had 70. And he had four billion euro in turnover.
他有着3万名员工。别忘了,那时候我们只有70名。他公司的营业额高达40亿欧元。
And after a couple of wines, I remember admitting to him that I felt that we did not deserve to be there,
在共进几杯红酒后,我记得自己向他承认我觉得我们不值得坐在这,
that we were well out of our depth, and at some time, someone was going to figure this out and send us home to Australia.
因为这已经远超出我们的水平,某个时间点,有人会发现这件事并把我们送回澳大利亚。
And he, I remember, just paused and looked at me and said
之后他,我记得,只是不语、看着我然后说,
that he felt exactly the same way and that he suspected all the winners were feeling that way,
他也有同样的感觉并且怀疑所有的获奖者都是这么觉得的,
and that despite not knowing Scott or I or really anything about technology,
尽管他不了解我和史考特,还有我们的技术,
he said that we were obviously doing something right and should probably just keep going.
他说我们显然把事情做对了,可能应该继续这件事。

如何将冒充者综合症转化为你的优势

Now, this was a pretty big light bulb moment for me for two reasons.

两个原因,这我对来说是个比较重要的顿悟瞬间。
One, I realized that other people felt this as well.
第一,我意识到别人也有着同样的感受。
And two, I realized it doesn't go away with any form of success.
第二,这个感受不论是何种形式的成功,都是挥之不去的。
I had assumed that successful people didn't feel like frauds, and I now know that the opposite is more likely to be true.
我一直在假设那些成功人士不觉得自己像个骗子,但现在我知道,事实更可能相反。
And this isn't just a feeling that I have at work. It happens in my personal life, too.
这不只是在工作中,我才有这个感觉。我的个人生活也是如此。
In the early days, I was flying back and forth to San Francisco every week for Atlassian,
早些时候,为Atlassian的生意,我时常往返飞旧金山,
and I racked up a lot of frequent flyer points and got access to the Qantas business lounge.
之后我累计了很多常旅客的积分后来获得了进入澳航商务休息室的权限。
Now, if there's ever a place that I don't belong...
噢,如果世上有一个不属于我的地方...
It doesn't help when I walk in and they generally look at me in shorts and jeans, or jeans and a T-shirt,
这丝毫没有帮助:当我走近休息室,服务人员一般会看着身穿短袖和牛仔裤,或牛仔裤和T恤的我,
and say, "Can I help you, son? Are you lost?"
说:“我能帮助你吗,孩子?你走丢了吗?”
But anyway, sometimes life happens in the Qantas lounge when you'd least expect it.
但不管怎样,在你没有任何期待之时,在澳航休息室,一些“大事”就会发生。
One morning, over a decade ago, I was sitting there on my regularly weekly commute,
十年多前,一个早晨,我坐在那,这是我日常每周的通勤,
and a beautiful woman from way out of my league walked into the Qantas lounge
一个和我仿佛是两个世界的美丽女士走进了澳航休息室,
and continued walking straight up to me in a case of mistaken identity.
并且径直向我走来,因为她认错人了。
She thought I was someone else, so in this case, I actually was an impostor.
她把我误认为了另一个人,所以在这个情况下,我实际上是一个冒充者。
But rather than freeze as I would have historically done or chivalrously maybe informed her of her error,
然而不同往常在这种情况下呆若木鸡,或是正直地告诉她认错人的我,
I just tried to keep the conversation going.
我只是尽可能保持这段对话的继续。
And classic Australian bullshit became some sort of forward movement and a phone number.
之后那种经典的澳式废话让我向前迈进了一步,拿到了她的电话号码。
And I took that girl to the awards ceremony a couple of months later.
几个月后,我带着那个女孩去了颁奖典礼。
And more than a decade later, I'm incredibly happy that she is now my wife, and we have four amazing children together.
十多年之后,我非常高兴地说,她成为了我的妻子,我们一起抚养着4个优秀的儿女。
But you'd think that when I wake up every morning, I wouldn't roll over and look at her and think,
但是你可能会想当我每天早上醒来,我不会翻过身,看着我的妻子,之后想:
"She's going to say, 'Who are you, and who gave you that side of the bed?' 'Get out of here.'" But she doesn't.
她马上要说:“你是谁,谁让你睡在床那边的?”“滚出去。”但是她没有。
And I think she sometimes feels the same way.
不过我想,她有时也会有这样的感觉。
And apparently, that's one of the reasons that we'll likely have a successful marriage.
而且显然,这很可能是我们成功婚姻的其中一个原因。
You see, in researching this talk,
在我为这个演讲做准备的时候,
I learned that one of the attributes of the most successful relationships is when both partners feel out of their league.
我发现,大多数成功关系的特性之一是双方都觉得自己配不上彼此。
They feel that their partner is out of their league. They feel like impostors.
他们觉得自己配不上自己的伴侣,他们就感觉自己是冒充者。
And if they don't freeze, and they're thankful,
他们如果没有害怕退缩,而是感恩,
and they work harder and they stretch to be the best partner they can, it's likely to be a very successful relationship.
他们会更加努力,彼此磨合为最佳伴侣,这一点,可能锻造一段非常成功的关系。
So if you have this feeling, don't freeze.
如果你有这样的感觉,别怕。
Try to keep the conversation going, even if she thinks that you're somebody that you're not.
尝试保持对话的进行,即使她误以为你是另一个人。
Now, feeling like, or people thinking I'm someone I'm not actually happens quite frequently.
自己感觉,或是别人认为我是一个并非真实自己的角色实际上蛮常发生的。
A great example from my more recent past, a few months ago,
一个来自最近的很好的例子,几个月之前
I was up late at night with one of my kids, and I saw something on Twitter about Tesla
我和我的一个孩子,晚上熬着夜,之后我看到推特上关于特斯拉的一些新闻,
saying that they could solve South Australia's rolling series of power crises with one of their large industrial batteries.
说是他们能够利用他们的一个巨型工业电池来解决南澳大利亚持续发生的电力危机。
Without thinking, I fired off a bunch of tweets, challenging them and saying were they really serious about this.
未经思索,我发了一堆推文挑战他们,并写道,“他们对此真的是认真的吗?”
And in doing so, I managed to kick a very small rock off a very big hill
这么做,我只是设法从一座大山上踢下了一块小石子,
that turned into an avalanche that I found myself tumbling in the middle of.
之后那演变成了雪崩,我发现自己被困在了其中。
Because you see, a few hours later, Elon tweeted me back and said that they were deadly serious,
因为几个小时后,伊隆·马斯克回复了我的推文,并说他们认真得不能再认真,
that within a hundred days of contract signing, they could install a 100-megawatt-hour facility,
在合同签署后的100天内,他们可以安装一个100兆瓦/时的设施。
which is a giant battery of a world-class size, one of the biggest ever made on the planet.
这是一个具有世界一流尺寸的巨型电池,世上所有被制造的最大的电池之一。
And that's when all hell really broke loose.
我看到回复的时候,一切都崩溃了。
Within 24 hours, I had every major media outlet texting and emailing
在24小时内,各大主流媒体渠道都在给我发消息、发邮件,
and trying to get in contact with me to get opinion as some sort of "expert" in energy.
尝试着联系到我,并且询问我这位能源“专家”的想法。
Now, at the time, I couldn't really have told you the difference between a one-and-a-half-volt AA battery that goes in my kids' toys
那时候,我还没法说出不同:我孩子们玩具中的1.5伏三号电池,
and a 100-megawatt-hour industrial-scale battery facility that goes in South Australia that could potentially solve their power crisis.
和即将出现在南澳大利亚、有潜力解决他们电力危机的100兆瓦/时的工业规模电池设施的不同。
I was now feeling a chronic case of impostor syndrome, and it got truly bizarre.
我觉得自己的冒充者综合症是一种慢性的症状,而且变得真的很古怪。
And I remember thinking to myself, "Shit. I've kind of started something here and I can't really get out.
我记得当时在想,“我在这搞出了点事,而且我还没办法挣脱出来。
If I abandon the situation, I'm going to sort of set back renewables in Australia
如果我放弃这个情况,我将会制约澳洲可再生能源的发展,
and maybe just look like a complete idiot because of my idiocy on Twitter."
并且因为我在推特上愚蠢的行为,我还可能看起来像个彻底的白痴。”
So I thought the only thing I could do was to try not to freeze and to try to learn.
于是我想到了我唯一能做的一件事就是尝试不要害怕,而是尝试着去学习。
So I spent a week trying to learn everything I could about industrial-scale batteries and the electricity grid and renewables
于是我花了一周的时间尽我所能,试着学习一切关于工业规模电池、电网、可再生能源、
and the economics of all of this and whether this was even a feasible proposal.
所有这些的经济效应以及这甚至是否是一个可行的方案。
I talked to the chief scientist, I talked to the CSIRO,
我和首席科学家与CSRO都进行了交谈,
had multiple ministers and premiers trying to give me their side of the story from both sides of the aisle.
也让几个部长和总理尝试从他们的角度分享他们故事,来听取各方观点。
I managed to exchange tweets with the prime minister.
我设法和总理交流推文。
I even managed to pull off a passing impression, let's say, of an energy expert on ABC Lateline.
我甚至设法给人留下深刻印象,比如,ABC电视新闻节目(Lateline)的能源专家。
But as a result of all this, South Australia did put out a battery tender,
但这些所有努力的结果是南澳大利亚后来的确进行了一场电池招标,
and they had more than 90 applications for that battery tender.
而且这场招标收到了90余供应商的申请。
And the national conversation over a period of a few months moved from the sort of theatrical lumps of coal in the parliament
在几个月中,全国性话题从议会中探讨的戏剧性的煤块问题,
to discussing kind of which industrial-scale battery chemistry was the best for building large-scale renewable batteries.
变成了讨论哪种工业规模的电池化学法最适合制造巨型可再生电池。
So I think that the important lesson is by that time in my life, I knew well that I was an impostor.
所以我觉得,直至那时,我人生中最重要的一堂课就是我很清楚自己是个冒充者。
I knew I was miles out of my depth. But instead of freezing, I tried to learn as much as I could,
我知道这件事超出了我的能力范围。但因为我不想被看作是白痴,相比怔住,
motivated by my fear of generally looking like an idiot, and tried to turn that into some sort of a force for good.
这一恐惧驱动着我尝试去学习了更多的知识,也尝试着把恐惧转化为一股永恒的力量。
So one of the things I've learned is that people think successful people don't feel like frauds.
所以,我学会的一件事就是:人们认为成功人士不会感觉自己像骗子。
But I think, especially knowing a lot of entrepreneurs, the opposite is more likely to be true.
但我想,尤其是认识了很多创业家之后,大众想法的反面才更可能是真相。
But the most successful people I know don't question themselves,
但我知道的大部分成功人士,他们不会质疑自己,
but they do heavily question, regularly question, their ideas and their knowledge.
尽管他们确实会不断质疑他们的想法和他们的知识。
They know when the water is way too deep, and they're not afraid to ask for advice. They don't see that as a bad thing.
他们知道什么时候情况超出了他们的能力范围,也不惧怕请教他人。他们不觉得那是一件坏事。
And they use that advice to hone those ideas, to improve them and to learn.
他们是用那些建议去打磨、改进那些想法,并同时学习。
And it's OK to be out of your depth sometimes. I'm frequently out of my depth.
有时力所不能及,没有关系。我经常面对那些自己力所不能及的情况。
It's OK to be out of your depth. It's OK to be in a situation where you just can't push the eject button,
超出你能力范畴,没有关系。处于不能按下退缩按钮的情况,没有关系,
so long as you don't freeze, so long as you harness the situation,
只要你别怔住,只要你能掌控那种情况,
don't be paralyzed and try to turn it into some sort of a force for good.
不要气馁,并且尽可能把它变为一种积极的力量。
And it's important that I say "harness" here, because this isn't sort of pop-psychology BS about conquering impostor syndrome for me.
我这里说的“掌控”很重要,因为这不是什么流行心理学中帮助我战胜冒充者综合症的废话。
It's merely about being aware of it. In fact, I'm extremely aware of feeling like an impostor right now, as I'm up here,
这仅仅在于“意识到这点”。事实上,我非常能意识到现在自己有冒充者的感觉,因为我站在这里,
some sort of pseudo-expert on a feeling that I couldn't even put a name to a few months ago, when I agreed to do this talk.
像个伪专家,在几个月前我同意做这个演讲时,我甚至不知道我要谈的这种感觉叫什么。
Which, if you think about it, is kind of the point, isn't it? Thank you.
不过,你仔细想想,这才是重点,不是吗?谢谢。

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adj. 有资格的,有限制的

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adj. 见多识广的 v. 通告,告发 vbl. 通告,

 
conversation [.kɔnvə'seiʃən]

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n. 会话,谈话

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challenging ['tʃælindʒiŋ]

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adj. 大胆的(复杂的,有前途的,挑战的) n. 复杂

 
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address [ə'dres]

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n. 住址,致词,讲话,谈吐,(处理问题的)技巧

 
deserve [di'zə:v]

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n. 引用
v. 引述,举证,报价

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