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And again, good or bad.
再说一遍，不管是好是坏。
I had a client once whose manager was really, really tough manager.
我曾经有一个客户，他的经理是非常非常严厉的经理。
It sounds similar to yours, but my client said, "But you know what? He's like predictably bad.
听起来和你的情况很像，但是我的当事人说，“但是你知道吗？他是那种可以预料的糟糕。
So therefore…" He goes, "He's so predictably bad as a manager, I can prepare myself."
因此……”他说，“他的不好我是可以预见的，我自己可以做好准备。”
But that's a sense of control.
但那是一种控制感。
That's a, "I know what to do in that situation, whether I'm going to fight back or I'm going to just cringe and have these emotions, or whatever it might be."
那就是，“我知道在那种情况下该怎么做，不管我是要反击，还是只是退缩，或者其他的什么。
You're in a different situation now though. You're with a different manager.
不过，你现在的处境不同了。你和一个不一样的经理一起工作。
And so does the behavior or the reaction, the feelings that you've had in the past, in what way do they even help you in this current situation?
你过去的行为或反应、过去的感觉，对你当前的情况有什么帮助呢？
Well, yeah. In regards to predictability, no, they don't because it's totally different manager.
嗯，是的。不过没有可预见性，因为这是完全不同的经理。
So it's actually creating those new type of experiences, which has actually been quite different.
因此，它实际上创造了一些新类型的体验，这实际上是相当不一样的。
Well, for me it's been unpredictable because I wasn't used to it.
嗯，对我来说这是不可预测的，因为我不习惯。
I'm not used to it, especially after being with a manager in that particular circumstances, to come to a different type of manager, it's the creation of a whole new experience.
我还没有习惯现在，特别是在那种特殊情况下和一位经理在一起共事，然后又换成一个完全不一样的上级，这是一种全新的体验。
It's actually creating those new relationships again, and I don't know how I feel actually, honestly.
它实际上是在重新建立新的关系，说实话，我不知道自己是什么感觉。
I don't know if I've got the confidence at the moment, or I'm just going through this new phase of just getting these new feelings about how things are different, or have I actually been able to create the confidence to say, "Okay…"
我不知道我现在是否有信心，或者我只是在经历一个新的阶段去感受事情的不同，也或者我真的已经能够建立信心说，“好的，…”
I've actually been able to create the confidence to say, "Okay, I can do not only my job, but I can also move on and do something different."
事实上，我已经能够建立信心说，“好吧，我不仅可以做好我的工作，而且我还能继续前进，做一些不同的事情。”
When you are like taking it away from the situation, when you are confident about something, what is it that makes you feel like you're confident?
把事情从当时的情境中剥离出来，想想看，当你对某事充满信心时，是什么让你觉得自己很自信？
That I have the knowledge to be able to do what I do, and I do it well.
我有足够的知识去做我所做的，而且我做得很好。
That creates the confidence that I… yeah.
那样也会创造我的信心。
Having the knowledge to do something, and being able to do it well makes you confident, and when it's something new and you don't know if you are going to do it well or not, then how do you end up being confident about trying it?
拥有做某事的知识，并能够做好它会让你变得自信，而当遇到新的事情时，你不知道自己是否能做好它，那么你怎么能自信地去尝试它呢?
Initially, it's anxiety. A lot of it.
起初，会感到非常焦虑。
But then it's just basically learning it and learning it as quickly as possible and then mastering it, and that creates my confidence.
但一般情况下就是学习，学习并掌握它，会让我建立起信心。
When I've actually mastered it, that particular new technology or whatever, then the confidence is there.
当我真正掌握了某种新技术或其他什么东西时，信心自然就来了。
I know that I can do my job well.
我知道我能做好我的工作。
All right. So, you have confidence around being able to do that, to learn something and master it, right?
好的。所以，你有信心能够学习并掌握它，对吗?
Yep. Correct.
是的。对，是这样。
