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5. Tell them no:
Why are we so afraid to tell our children no? Did you know that most of the time when our children act out in dress, attitude, behavior, drugs, sex, they are actually calling out for love. That's all they want! Whose responsibility is it to give them the love they deserve? Children learn at a very young age that by using manipulative behaviors it will get us to pay more attention to them. And it works! But screaming and nagging doesn't. Ignoring them doesn’t work either. Our children wish we would tell them no. All they want is our attention.
5.对他们说不准：
我们为什么如此害怕对我们的孩子说不准？你是否知道大多数时候，我们的孩子穿着开始变化，态度变得蛮横，行为古怪异常，甚至开始吸毒，发生性行为的时候，他们实际上是在呼唤爱。那就是他们想要的一切！谁的职责是给予他们应得的爱？孩子在很小的时候，就学会了用左右别人的行为来引起我们的注意。那确实有效！而又哭又闹却是不起作用的。不理他们也是不起作用的。我们的孩子希望我们对他们说不准。他们想要的仅仅是我们对他们的关注。
[管教你的儿子，他就使你得安息，也必使你心里喜乐。---- 箴言 第二十九章第十七节 （《圣经.旧约》中的一卷）]
[Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will be a delight to your soul. Proverbs 29:17]
