Avoid personalization. Personalization is another cognitive distortion. It is when you take credit for an event for which you didn’t have any control. Many of the negative events you will face will be beyond your control, but you might blame yourself. Got laid off? It might not have anything to do with you and everything to do with the company, but if you personalize this you’ll beat yourself up over it. Again, the solution here is to attack the belief. For each negative event, ask yourself, “Am I responsible for this or was this outside of my control?”

　　拒绝个性化。个性化是另一个认知扭曲，当你对自己没有把握的事情加以强求的时候，很多负面情况是因为你无法控制而导致的，这种时候如果你再责备自己肯定会火上浇油，让心情更加糟的。