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1. YOU FEEL MOST LIKE YOURSELF WHEN YOU'RE WITH THEM
1. 和他/她在一起的时候，你最像你自己
Over the years, you've probably often heard the line, "You complete me" (thank you, "Jerry McGuire"). However, Jeffrey Sumber, psychotherapist, feels there is more to it.
多年来，你可能经常听到人们这样说，"你令我变得完整"（谢谢你"杰瑞·麦圭尔"）。然而，心理治疗师杰瑞弗·萨博认为还有更多。
"In spite of popular opinion and what's said in movies, a partner doesn't complete us," he told Business Insider. "Although life with them feels complete, it's more important to feel complete yourself. Meaning, you feel a sense of peace, a 'rightness' to your own life when you're interacting with them, and feel most like yourself near them."
"虽然大家都这么认为，电影里也都这么说，但伴侣并不会令我们完整，"他对Business Insider说道。"虽然和另一半生活在一起会让你感到完整，但更重要的是自我完整。也就是说，和他/她互动的时候，你会有一种平和感，觉得自己的生活正朝着'正确的'方向迈进。和他/她在一起的时候，你就是你自己。"
2. THEY PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL THINGS
2. 他/她会关注一些小事
Another sign that you should marry your partner is that they not only pay attention to the big things that happen in your life, but they also celebrate the small things, too. "When your partner takes a genuine interest and authentic concern about the small things in your existence - from a troubling phone call with a family member to an irritating day at work - it's another sign," Sumber said.
可以对另一半托付终身的另一个迹象就是他/她不仅关注你生活中发生的一些重要事件，而且也会庆祝生活中的一些小事。"当另一半十分关注、关心你生活中发生的一些小事时--从和家人打电话不开心到工作遇到麻烦事--这就是另一个迹象，"萨博说道。
"The level of connection and healthy, safe attachment in a relationship can often be most evident in these seemingly minor issues, because our partner sits next to us and not above us," he said.
"这些看似微不足道的问题最能显示你们是否心意相通，你们的恋情是否健康、安全，这是因为另一半和我们是平等的关系，而不是高我们一等。"
3. YOU HAVE KINDNESS AND MUTUAL RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER
3. 你们会相互尊重、彼此善良
You've probably heard the phrase, "treat others how you want to be treated," and that's true when it comes to you and your partner, too. "When kindness is a shared primary value, it can mean great things for a relationship," Sumber said. "When both partners lead with just being nice and respectful to one another, there is a good chance that you have stumbled onto a gem of a person, and they might inspire you to be even more gem-like, too."
你可能听说过这样一句话，"将心比心"，对于你和你的另一半来说也是如此。"当你们都认为善良是主要价值时，你们的恋情会发展很好，"萨博说道。"当双方都对彼此友善、相互尊重对方时，你很有可能发现一个人的优点，这也会激励你养成这种优点。"
4. YOU HAVE A HEALTHY GIVE-AND-TAKE
4. 你们懂得妥协
In addition to having good communication, being able to compromise is a key factor in maintaining a healthy relationship. "Great couples know that both partners need to give and take," Elmquist said. "This reciprocity allows for balance in a relationship over the long term."
除了良好的沟通之外，能够妥协也是维持健康关系的关键因素。"幸福的情侣知道彼此都应妥协，"Elmquist说道。"从长远角度看，这种相互性有利于感情平衡。"
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