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嗨，psych2的观众们，欢迎回到下一个视频。
Our mission is to make content on mental health and self-help more accessible to everyone.
我们的使命是让每个人都更容易获得关于心理健康和自助的内容。
This is made possible through your continued love and support, and we're so grateful for that. So, thank you.
这是通过你们持续的爱和支持而实现的，我们非常感谢。所以，谢谢大家。
Now, let's begin.
现在，我们开始吧。
Is there someone in your life that you consider a lifelong friend? Are you confident that no matter what there'll be there for you?
你的生活中有没有毕生好友？你有信心不管发生什么她都会在你身边吗？
Friendship is a beautiful thing and the lifelong kind can be even more so.
友谊是美好的，终生的友谊更是如此。
It's a researched fact that friendships boost your mental and physical health.
有研究表明，友谊能促进人的精神和身体健康。
Having strong friendships not only increases your pain tolerance and boosts your immune system, but also increases your sense of self, and belonging and purpose.
拥有深厚的友谊不仅能增强你对疼痛的忍耐力，增强你的免疫系统，还能增强你的自我意识、归属感和目标感。
So here are eight signs you've made a lifelong friend.
以下是交到毕生好友的8种迹象。
One, you can confide in them.
第一，你可以向他们吐露心声。
Have you ever shared confidences with someone? Are you certain your secrets are safe with them? If so, it means you trust your friend.
你曾经和别人分享过秘密吗？你确定他们会保守你的秘密吗？如果是这样，说明你信任你的朋友。
You feel comfortable around them and you're sure they won't judge you.
你和他们在一起感觉很舒服，而且你确信他们不会对你评头论足。
Checking all of those boxes is a sure-fire way to discern a lifelong friend.
这些无疑是鉴别毕生好友的有效方法。
Inviting in someone is great for your mental health because research says it intensifies your sense of purpose and belonging.
让别人住进你的心里对你的心理健康益处很大，因为研究表明这会增强你的使命感和归属感。
Belong is to feel comfortable and confident with who you are.
归属感是指对自己感到自在和自信。
And if you feel that way around your friend, you know there's a good chance that they're here to stay.
如果你在朋友身边有这种感觉，你就知道他们很有可能会留下来。
Number two, you enjoy similar things.
第二，你们喜欢相似的东西。
You and those you consider your close friends, enjoy doing some of the same things.
你和那些你认为亲密的朋友都喜欢做一些相同的事情。
You have similar hobbies, study similar things in school.
你们有相似的爱好，在学校学习相似的东西。
Having similar interests is actually a sign of lifelong friendship.
有共同的兴趣其实是终身友谊的标志。
Research shows that forming friendships based on common interests creates a valued sense of community between you.
研究表明，建立在共同兴趣基础上的友谊可以在你们之间创造一种有价值的社区感。
This is definitely not a hard and fast rule, and it's more applicable to making friends in college or school where your lives are more or less grouped by your interests and hobbies.
这绝对不是一个硬性规则，它更适用于在大学或学校交朋友，因为你的生活或多或少是由你的兴趣和爱好分组的。
With that said though, enjoying similar things has the potential to ensure lifelong friendship as it can lead to sharing similar passions and values.
尽管如此，享受相似的事物有可能确保终生的友谊，因为你们能够分享相似的激情和价值观。
Number three, you feel comfortable and safe around them.
第三，你在他们身边感到舒适和安全。
Do you feel safe to express yourself around your friend or do you feel like you have to hide parts of who you are in fear that they'll judge you?
你觉得在朋友面前将自己暴露无遗安全吗？或者，你有没有觉得在他们面前有必要适当地隐藏一下自己，因为害怕他们评判你？
All of this refers to emotional comfort and safety, which seems like a given.
所有这些都涉及情感上的舒适和安全，这似乎是理所当然的。
But to actually achieve this in a friendship, it's important that both people listen to each other actively with a nonjudgmental mind.
但要在友谊中真正做到这一点，重要的是双方都要以一种不带偏见的心态积极倾听对方。
You should feel that no matter what your friend has your best interest at heart and appreciate things that make you, you.
你应该感觉到，无论你的朋友是什么，他都会把你的利益放在心里，感激那些塑造你的东西。
Number four, they emotionally support you when you don't feel well.
第四，在你感觉不舒服时他们会在情感上支持你。
Can you be sure they won't turn your back on you if you fall sick, sad, heartbroken, or worried?
你能确定当你生病、伤心、心碎或者担心时他们不会背弃你吗？
Ups and downs are a part of life and a lifelong friend will be willing to be there for you through all of it.
跌宕起伏是生活的一部分，毕生挚友会愿意陪你度过这一切。
True friendships don't fizzle out when things get difficult. Rather, you can count on them to get you through.
当事情变得困难时，真正的友谊不会消失。相反，你可以指望他们帮你度过难关。
When you're mentally unwell, you might want to isolate yourself.
当你精神上不舒服的时候，你可能想要孤立自己。
Friends who still emotionally support you can actually help pull you out of it's debilitating effects.
那些仍然在情感上支持你的朋友可以帮助你摆脱抑郁的影响。
Number five, they inspire you.
第五，他们能激励你。
Do your friends make you want to become the best version of who you are?
你的朋友让你想成为最好的自己吗？
According to research, lifelong friendships can encourage you to make up healthier habits, such as exercising, and help you drop unhealthy habits, like overusing substances or overthinking things.
研究表明，终身的友谊可以鼓励你养成更健康的习惯，比如锻炼，还可以帮助你改掉不健康的习惯，比如滥用药物或者想得太多。
Have you ever had a friend help you quit something that was difficult for you to quit on your own?
你曾经有过朋友帮你戒掉你自己很难戒掉的东西吗？
A lot of times, loneliness can cause you to perpetuate mentally destructive habits.
很多时候，孤独会使你养成精神上的坏习惯。
But secure long-lasting friendships can change your perspective by showing you that you aren't really alone.
但是稳固持久的友谊可以改变你的看法，告诉你你并不孤单。
And that in itself can help remove some of your negative thinking patterns.
这本身就能帮助你消除一些消极的思维模式。
Number six, you feel valued around them.
第六，在他们身边你会感到被重视。
Lifelong friends will show you how much they care about you through their words and, more importantly, their actions.
毕生挚友会通过他们的语言，更重要的是他们的行动来告诉你他们有多关心你。
And this is so important because feeling valued and cared about is known to contribute to your happiness as an individual.
这一点非常重要，因为感觉被重视和关心对你个人的幸福有所帮助。
Rather than only talking about themselves, they'll call you to check in on you. They'll show up on time.
他们不仅会谈论自己，还会打电话问候你。他们会准时出现在你身边。
And when they are with you, they'll give you their full attention.
当他们和你在一起时，他们会全心全意地关注你。
Lifelong friends will lift you up when you're feeling down simply by being present with you and reminding you how much you matter to them.
当你情绪低落时他们会陪在你身边，提醒你你对他们来说有多重要，从而让你振作起来。
Number seven, they're honest with you.
第七，他们对你很诚实。
Have you had a friend who called you out when you made a mistake, but still didn't leave your side?
你有没有过这样的朋友，当你犯错时他们会对你大骂，但依旧不会离你而去？
You may have felt embarrassed or even angry at the time, but that friend truly has your best interest at heart.
你当时可能会觉得尴尬、愤怒，但是这样的朋友才是真正对你好的朋友。
Friends like these are so important and usually lifelong because they show you that not only will they be there for you,
这样的朋友很重要，这样的朋友通常才是毕生挚友，因为他们向你展示了他们不仅随叫随到，
but you can trust them to give you their honest opinion to help you succeed and become a better person on your own.
你还可以信任他们能够给你最诚实的建议帮助你成功并成为更好的你。
Rather than sitting back, saying nothing, and watching you get hurt or fail.
而不是坐在那里什么都不说，看着你受伤、失败。
And number eight, they respect your boundaries.
第八，他们尊重你的底线。
Believe it or not, boundaries are crucial in friendships.
信不信由你，界限对友谊至关重要。
They make sure that you grow as an individual, and that you and your friends don't become too dependent on each other.
他们确保你作为一个独立的个体成长，你和你的朋友不会变得过于依赖彼此。
If there is something you don't want to talk about, a lifelong friend will accept that and continue to emotionally support you rather than distance themselves out of anger.
如果你有什么不想说的事情，毕生挚友会接受并依旧在情感上支持你，而不是因你的愤怒而远离你。
Boundaries are necessary because they keep you safe, and a good friend will make sure not to cross ones that you have set.
界限是必要的，因为它能保证你的安全，好朋友会确保不会越过你设定的界限。
Have you made a lifelong friend? How many of these signs described your friendship with them? Let us know in the comments below.
你交到毕生挚友了吗？这些迹象中有多少是你和他们的友谊的描述？请在下面的评论区中告诉我们。
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如果你觉得这个视频很有帮助，一定要点赞并订阅，并与可能从中受益的人分享。
As always, thanks for watching and we'll see you in our next video.
一如既往，感谢收看，下期视频再见。
