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1. He's had a string of terrible relationships that will inform how he acts with you. Duh, but there's more. It's very likely he's been burned before and it was traumatic enough that he's wary of being hurt again. If that history has been established, keep it in mind moving forward. If he's acting irrationally, it certainly isn't your fault, but keep in mind that (within reason) it isn't entirely his fault either. Understanding his side of the situation will be very helpful moving forward.
1. 他有过很多次糟糕的情感经历，这会影响他如何对待你。但还有更多。很有可能他之前情感受过伤，伤势十分严重让他十分谨慎不想再受伤害。如果有这种过往，那要记得继续向前。如果他行为很不理智，这肯定不是你的问题，但你也要理智的记住这也不是他的过错。理解他的难处对于你们的关系向前发展十分有帮助。
2. Those past relationships aren't necessarily romantic. Someone with trust issues might not have a big, flashing horrible relationship to point at. While a partner with a habit of cheating or emotional abuse is certainly a possibility, keep in mind that an absent parent or even a problematic friend could be the root cause. It could even be a combination. Maybe (and very unfortunately) he's the kind of person that lets people walk all over him, so he's had a revolving door of troubling relationships.
2. 这些过去的感情不一定都是浪漫的。那些难以信任别人的人可能经历过一段非常痛苦的感情。其伴侣习惯了出轨或情感虐待就是一种可能性，记住父母不在身边或者甚至是有一个麻烦不断的朋友都有可能是根源。甚至可能是两者相结合。不幸的是，他有可能是那种随意让人欺负的男生，所以会不断遭遇糟糕的感情。
3. He might have trouble committing. In the early stages of the relationship, before you're even really aware of his trust issues, he might find it tough to be in a relationship because he likes you a lot and is afraid to invest in a relationship he assumes is just going to hurt him. It might take some time and slow progress, but he'll likely come around.
3. 可能他很难对他人做出承诺。在情感的初期阶段，甚至在你意识到他难以信任别人之前，他可能会发现和你在一起十分困难，因为他很喜欢你，但他又害怕投入这段可能会伤害他的感情。也许需要一段时间或者进展缓慢，但很有可能他会恢复对他人的信任。
Just be aware that, on the flip-side, not every guy that doesn't want to commit to a relationship with you has trust issues. Some of them just aren't ready to settle down. Trust your instincts, and don't wait around for just anyone.
但另一方面，你也要知道，并不是所有不愿做出承诺的男生都有信任他人的问题。有些人就是还没有准备好安顿下来。相信自己的直觉，不要等待所有人。
4. He's going to be emotionally guarded. Even typical relationship milestones like saying "I love you" might come hard to him, because again, the less he invests, the less he can get hurt. Keep that in mind when you're pressing him to open up to you, and also that moments when he does share with you are huge milestones for him. If communication is a serious issue for you though, it's certainly worth speaking about with him and exploring other options.
4. 他情绪谨慎。即使是“我爱你”之类的典型情感里程碑对他来说都很困难，因为，他投入的越少，伤害就越小。记住当你对他施压让他对你敞开心扉时，他与你分享的这些时刻对他来说也是重要一步。但如果你觉得沟通困难，那么和他交谈寻找其它的解决方法当然也是很值得的。
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