男人说：If you feel undervalued, ask for a raise. 如果你觉得报酬低，可以要求加薪。

女人的理解：Ugh, he think my problems are so simple--just fix it. 啊，他认为我的问题很简单，很好解决。

男人本意：Work's bothering you? Let me help! 工作让你感到困扰吗？让我来帮助你！

The truth is, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers in romantic relationships, and so what comes across as condescending can actually be your guy's way of trying to help."

事实上，在恋爱关系中，男人往往视他们自己为问题解决者，所以他表现得傲慢，实际上是他在试图帮助你。