This is very important. This is like a critical point from, you’ve done all that greatwork, you’ve been out interacting, you’ve got her phone number, now it’s like ‘Right, I’ve, I’ve,OK, I’ve got to move forward with this, I’ve gotta take some steps. I need to set up a date to really get to that point where I can establish some sort of dating relationship’ ,whatever it is that you’re looking for.

首次通话非常重要。你能做的都做了，你们已经面对面交流过了，你已经拿到了她的电话号码，相对于这些而言，首次通话就像一个临界点。现在，你在寻思，“好了，我已经……已经……好吧，我得再进一步，我得采取点行动才行。我需要先约她出来一次，才能真正达到建立某种关系的地步”——不管你期望是什么关系，你都得先约到她。